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Just found out i'm pregnant by abusive ex, advice please?
02-24-2014, 09:14 PM
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Just found out i'm pregnant by abusive ex, advice please?
My ex and I broke up a couple of months ago after 2 years of being off and on due to him being REALLY mentally abusive then eventually physically. After he hit me we didn't talk for a while. We ended up talking again on the verge of getting back together. Long story short last time we talked was about 3 months ago he gave me this long spill about how he changed he loves me and etc.

Come to find out after we had sex he was full of it. About a week after he told me how we would never work because "I couldn't keep up with him sexually", "Wasn't mentally on his level", and didn't have the capability to challenge him on a grown women level...ultimately projecting me as NOTHING. I felt so low it was ridiculous.

After he did all that, he attempted to come back talking to me. I had been ignoring him and blocked him on all my social media sites along with cell phone. Only thing he was still on was my instagram (he STILL likes almost all my pictures) and that was only because I didn't know how to block him. I have been so happy lately it's almost crazy even found a new interest up until last night.

For the last few days I've been BAD headaches, nausea and dizziness. I decided to take a test just for the heck of it. I didn't think it would come back because I've been having "periods" (moderate bleeding around the time of period). Well come to find out I am in fact pregnant. I did a online calculator and I'm about 10 weeks.

Now I don't know what to do.....
I don't want to back peddle but I almost have no choice cause I'm not giving this child up for adoption nor abortion.

I am beyond happy to have a child on the way and we are both in a financial place to handle it but the circumstances with HIM are no where near ANYTHING I want.

I don't even know what my question is, can I just get advice? How do I tell him? I seriously doubt he'd be that way toward the baby because he has a god son and treats him like a prince but other people, not so much.

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02-24-2014, 09:20 PM
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He sounds like a piece of shit but you need to tell him just be straight forward with him even though you don&#x27;t want to talk to him, you don&#x27;t need to work things out with him and get back together because that will be a very bad idea expecially since he is abusive and you&#x27;re pregnant. just tell him and tell him his in it for the next 18 years paying child support and just think positive you can do it be strong for yourself and your baby and try and do the best for your baby. a baby is a gift and such a wonderful experience. Good luck my dear and congratulations on such a wonderful thing.

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02-24-2014, 09:23 PM
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You are crazy to even consider going to him. If you want the baby have it and cherish as the only good thing that came of your relationship. You can tell him but he will then be or at least try to be a part of your life forever. You have yourself in quite the situation here. My advice would be to leave him to the past and raise the baby on your own. If you tell him and he's still an asshole about it you can always take em for child support. After a while give him the option of paying the support payments or leave you and your baby alone until he/she is old enough to decide to meet him or not
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02-24-2014, 09:31 PM
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I totally agree with Joe.
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