Long distance? is he cheating?(advice from men)?

[Wonderwoman]

I would like to ask you for a little advice. My boyfriend and I of a year are in a long distance relationship (4hrs away) I had a miscarriage two months ago and I wasn't able to have "you know". He didn't bring the subject up and he was perfectly fine with no sex. But he didn't say how much he missed it. I had doubts, that maybe he's cheating. I mean when we are together he looks at other woman infront of me. But just recently I checked my boyfriend's friend list on facebook to find his brother to ask how his pregnant wife is doing and in his top friends was a female. Me, thinking it was his sister because he has two sisters, I met one but not the other, I asked him if it was his sister and I would love to meet her. He said no it wasn't his sister, it was just someone he met via social media. I was ok with that answer, it was no big deal but when I tried to engage in a conversation with him after my question he had an complete addittude and he got very quite. Before I didn't think he was cheating until his quietness and addittude. Do you think he was flirting with her or talking to her, she lives in the same city as she does. I sent her a message to find out, I didn't ask her- I just engaged in a conversation. I told my boyfriend I had spoken to her and loved the things she wrote on her wall...he got so mad and went off. Then stayed quiet. I don't understand, I wouldn't care if he had spoken to a male I had as a friend on facebook...because I know there is nothing going on with me and this guy. Can you please explain his anger and do you think I'm being paranoid? Do you think he couldve been flirting with her?

[Sicarus]

Okay this is ridiculous. You think he is cheating because he isn't talking about how much he is missing sex? Maybe he is!! And would feel like the worst human alive if he brought it up knowing what you went through and why you couldn't have sex. Maybe he doesn't enjoy and depend on sex for pleasure than you think he does. There is more to life you know. Maybe you miscarriage put him the beep off, it would for me!!


You sound more than paranoid. Psychotic..

[Richie]

he could very well be looking into someone else. don't know the extend to which he was cheating.

well you are in a long distance relationship w no physical or emotional intimacy? then the chances of him cheating are very high!

[LadyMarissa]

I don't consider flirting cheating!!! Yes, it could possibly lead to cheating; but just flirting if NOT cheating!!! You've basically accused him of cheating with her & then you go behind his back to check her out. In my opinion, that is a breach of trust!!! You're telling him that you don't trust him. IF he's NOT doing anything wrong, that would be extremely offensive & I could understand his outrage!!! All you've accomplished is giving him a legitimate reason to cheat on you!!! Since you don't trust him while he's being faithful, he has NO reason to try & be faithful. YES, I think you are overreacting!!!

[Shannon]

I'm of the opinion being a male and knowing -- of course -- my sometimes less than savoury ways, that it is likely he would take an opportunity to become involved with another woman under the circumstance of you being so far apart. His attitude is consistent with that and -- too bad -- many women are quite happy to engage with a willing male. His anger might even be some kind of way he shows disappointment with himself, knowing he is doing wrong. All this, sorry to say, fairly typical male behaviour.