How to talk to different people at school?

[Kelley]

Hi, please take the time to read this..

Well im 14 and as far as social lives go, I don't have one. At school i'm a valued friend and im pretty happy but outside of school none of us do anything together. It really gets me down because i feel so lonely and isolated all the time. My friends are quite boring to be honest, like they never want to do anything apart from once in a blue moon and im the type of person that wants to go out every day but i cant without friends. This whole thing with my friends isn't personal towards me. However, there are so many people in my year that i don't have lessons with that seem just like me and people i would really get on with. Because they're not in any of my form or normal lessons i cant socialise or get to know them personally. All my friends just want to hang around one spot and I cant go over to all these other people by myself. So how do i approach these people, or how do I get my friends to go over that area?!

Please dont say the usual like "message them on facebook" or "ask them how their holiday was" etc please because if anything that would get me socially rejected lol. I just want to know how to talk to these other people and become friends with them even though theyre not in any of my lessons.

Thanks

[Erica]

Im 17, and I know how you feel. I used to isolate myself because i didn't have friends, however there was a group of friends I saw at school one day and thought they would be perfect! I have really bad anxiety and Im super shy... So going up to them and saying " hey wasssssup! " wasnt really an option, but I was really in need for friends to hang out with out side of school, so i literally just went up to them one day ( a group of 6 ) and joined in there conversation, and bam we all have been bestfriends for 2 years

My advice for you is drop the friends that don't want to hang out with you outside of school, and go up to the people you want to hangout with and talk to them, dont be afraid of rejection. If its meant to be it will be.


Hope i helped!


Ps. I know you said you didn't want us to tell you to go to Facebook and message them, but it is a good way to approach the situation!