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Fiancé and I are separated but?
02-24-2014, 11:43 PM
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Fiancé and I are separated but?
It's like he wants to be friends? We separated 3 weeks ago after a disagreement. Things have been very stressful for us and our families, but I didn't think the argument was that big. Anyway, he basically ignored me for 2 weeks before he answered my call. We have not seen each other yet. Now that he answered my call, we sort of talked, he said he wants time to fix himself for a few MONTHS, he has me blocked on all social media, but since the call he has been calling me, and some texting. On the phone he will say he loves me before hanging up but he no longer says it in texts, just goodnight or something. During our call he pointed out every negative thing possible, but yet says things will get better. I honestly don't believe there's anyone else and I know he's depressed and stressed, but I hate this whole "friend" thing...what should I do? If I ignore him now, it seems we will never work it out, but this friend thing makes me uncomfortable, it's like I'm here at his call, but yet he can do as he pleases since technically he is single. I would give him space if we were still together and I wasn't blocked on everything, but since he wants to talk but be single til he's better has me confused..in some ways I feel like he's intentionally punishing me. What do I do?

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02-24-2014, 11:44 PM
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The whole friend thing is stupid. That only means that if you pass in the street you can say Hi. It doesn't mean staying in touch.

Anyone that ignores you for 2 weeks will do the same thing as a husband and father. He can't handle his anger and won't communicate his feelings so he will freeze you out, which resolves nothing.

Don't let him hurt and confuse you anymore. Stop worrying about what he wants. Make a clean break and stop all contact so you can heal and find someone mature that can love and care for you.

Frankly, anyone that blocked me would be gone from my life as quickly as they blocked me. Don't look back. Move on. I know it hurts but it will be better for you. If a year from now he isn't depressed and stressed maybe you can date again but I wouldn't count on it. He doesn't meet the minimum adult requirements for a good husband. If he's stressed now how will he feel when there's a mortgage, a baby or if you get sick?

I'm betting he's seeing someone else.

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