How do people get friends so quickly?

[Becky]

I'm in my first year of college along with another 1000 students but the weird this is it's only been a few months yet people who went to my high school are friends with people from other high schools and are already texting each other, talking on twitter and going to each other's parties?!

I am a talkative person and I will always make an effort with people and I go out with my friends when I can but I don't see how others can be so close after no time. I don't do clubs or have a part time job because of college work and these people often do have jobs and go to clubs but I don't see how that can get you to make friends so quickly!

For a starter, asking a person who you only speak to in college and have known for only two months, for their phone number is incredibly awkward and sounds creepy in my opinion. But I'm not shy so I do follow them on twitter but I don't feel close to them even though they are close to people they have only just met. Am I doing something wrong?

[shawn]

When people already have litttle "clicks" going on with friends, its really hard to try to joim them cause they are so use to having just that group and would prefer it to stay that way. You arent doing anything wrong. Maybe try to find someone who doesnt hang out with other people and try to start your own group of friends to hang out with. I know that must be hard not really having friends going to the same college. But also remember you arent really there to socialize anyways best of luck!

[kyle]

Clubbing and other social events like this help you connect to people faster. This is because you both have a good time when you meet so that person associates that good time with your friendship making them that much closer. You should look into joining a sorority or some other kind of group. Doing this early on in college will put you out there and help you meet a lot of people. Also looks good on a resume and can open up some doors down the road. A word of advice though, if you join a sorority try to stay away from the party sororities and stick to the academic ones. You'll make just as many friends and it'll help you keep your mind on what's important; your grades.

[iraban]

probably you did'nt talk to the right people [ I mean the more popular people] so you did'nt get your position as a popular guys friend, which yeah, attracts a lot of people and then more and more

maybe you should be nice and funny and try to follow them on twitter
theres no harm in doing that

try to speak to popular people, and remember treat everyone individually and give everyone the same amount of attention