Please help, I need relationship advice! I have no one to ask and I am desperate!?

[Travis B]

I know people generally hate answering relationship problems and stuff like that here but I really need help. Even if other people have answered, please still answer and help me. I'm begging you. Here's the situation. I've been trying to figure it out for a while now. Im really sorry it's so long, please just bear through it. I need advice.

So I am 19 and i dated this girl from 17 into 18 for a year and a half. I loved/love her but it ended with her feelings changing because we were young and didnt know how to keep a relationship alive. She asked for a break and then met someone else on the break that she dated. So we have this history there. We both went to college. And about 6 months later she came to me crying over and over saying she had messed up and knew she wanted me back. She took a while to appropriately break up with the other guy and i told her we would try things again and see what happened. So we gave it time and are now trying things again.
In the meantime, while I was waiting and taking time apart, I met this amazing other girl. I like her A LOT! She is beautiful and we have fantastic chemistry and compatibility. I told her i wanted to possibly try dating in a while and kinda stopped talking to her for a bit. I didn't burn that bridge though.
Here's the issue, I love girl 1, but I have no idea if that's the healthy one. But I also REALLY like girl 2. Everytime I am with one of them, I want to be hanging out with the other one. And any time I think I've decided on one, I go the other direction the next day. I can't figure out who I want. And I know "first world problems" but I honestly don't know what to do. I want both for different reasons. I have had so much with girl 1 and i love her, but that ended poorly once before. And girl 2 and I are still pretty early on so i could discover stuff i hate about her and deal breakers still. I dont know what to do! PLEASE HELP!

PS. I am currently with girl 1 and seeing if time with her helps make up my mind. So far, no luck there.
PSS. I get confused because I get along so well with girl 2 but girl 1 has all this history in my heart so it is really difficult to know what is "stronger" feelings for her in certain areas and what is just time she has the advantage with.

[Michelle]

You know what, hun? This is not the place to ask. Ask yourself. Who do you like more? And who do you want more? Other people won't help you. These are the girls YOU like

[87confusion]

Try going away for a while. A week or something. Don't talk to either girl. No facebook, twitter, or anything. Get completely cut off from both of them. At the end of the week, which one did you miss more? Which one did you want to call everynight before sleeping? Or just randomly text to see what they did that day? If its both still then you need to come clean to both of them and see what happens.

[just me]

Honestly you are the only one that can answer this, but I will tell you what I think.

I think you should pursue girl #2. You have been there done that with girl #1 and it didn't work out. What makes you think it will the second time around? To me it sounds like you are the come to guy when all else fails for her. People like that often will do this over and over again. I would honestly give girl #2 a shot. Maybe some time down the road when you both have matured and dated a few other people and know what you like and what you don't you can "try again". You like Girl #1 because she is your first love and you are comfortable with her and the idea of her that's ok, but if you only ever stay with what's comfortable you will never learn or see what else is out there.

Just my take on it, been with my husband for 15 years now. He was guy #4 for me! Lol.......follow your heart it's all you can do.