i told a girl that i love her but she wants us to stay as friends and now i don't know what to do?

[Mehedi Hasan]

This girl was my first crush....and i love her so much....i just can't stop thinking about her.we know each other since we were kid. But i didn't told her how i feel about her when we were kid.Her apartment and my apartment was in the same building. Then my parents had to move to a new place for some reasons.So suddenly i just stop seeing her.But after five years we meet again.And then all the happy feeling about her just came back me.After that i got her phone number and her Facebook ID.Then i talk to her every day.And i also asked her about her boyfriend if she had any.Then she told me that she don't have a boyfriend so she is single.I was happy that she was single,few days after i have decided to tell her how i feel about her.And i didn't know how to tell a girl that how i feel about her cause i never done it before.So it was hard for me to tell her that.And then one day i finally told her that i like her a lot.SO then she tells me to stay as friends and also she told me that she have a boyfriend.I didn't know what to do.Because i truly love her so much.But she lied to me.I should feel angry about her.But I still love her and think about her all the time.Even though she lied to me and maybe played me but still i don't feel any anger for her.She tried to chat with me on Facebook.And asked me that why i'm not talking to her.I told her that i was busy and didn't had the time to talk to her.But the real truth was i didn't know what to do.How i'm gonna talk to her .it feels so weird.should i stay as friend and talk to her or should i ignore her even though it's killing me

[Steven Ewing]

She isn't interested in you in the way you are with her. That is typically the norm when a guy learns he is hung up on a girl, especially from an old association and long held feelings. What she is doing is saying we are acquainted, and we can be friends cause of that, but you should understand that she won't be hanging out with you, or showing you any affection. Your best bet is to take her up on the association you have, and forget about her romantically, cause she isn't going to change her feelings. In fact, you should not infringe on her in class or school, except to be cordial and friendly. I think she is being as honest and friendly as possible.

[Matthew]

Women are attracted to men for reasons that most men either don't know, don't understand, or won't accept.Start a new way of thinking about things based on REALITY and not LOGIC.the thing to remember is that ATTRACTION has a pattern. It's like a combination lock or a puzzle. There is a way to create it if you know the "recipe". On the other hand, if you DON'T know the recipe, then you're not likely to figure it out by trial and error. And the reason for this -- again -- is because IT'S NOT LOGICAL.While men are attracted mostly to LOOKS, women are attracted mostly to PERSONALITY TRAITS.In your situation, you displayed the personality trait that I refer to as WUSSY a little too early in the game.Women generally aren't attracted to men who get too lovey-dovey and emotional too quickly. There's not mystery or challenge when you fall in love immediately.If a woman wants to tell you that she isn't interested in you in a romantic way, she'll often NOT tell you as her way of telling you. In other words, she might just disappear for awhile. Or she might not return calls quickly. Or she might talk about other guys with you or the number one thing is "just wanna be friends...Unfortunately, once a woman has "made up her mind" about a guy, it's usually VERY difficult to change that mind.
If you're in a situation like this where a woman has said "I only like you as a friend", then you're best off going out and meeting some other women, and getting on with your life IMMEDIATELY! Don't wait. Get on with it;If you disappear from HER life, then turn up a month or two later... and you're dating a few other attractive women... she might see you in a new light.Point: Don't try to un-do it. Just get on with your life and quit obsessing over her.The most important step you can take is to LEARN HOW ATTRACTION WORKS! You need to learn this game so you know what's happening in future situations... and, most importantly you know what to do to make women feel attracted to you from the beginning (and, of course, how to NOT let your inner WUSS rear its ugly head too often).You have to do a lot of INNER work if you want to be the kind of guy who can keep an amazing woman.After spending a few years figuring this stuff out, I have realized that it is VITAL that a guy get his Inner Game together FIRST.

Once you understand how and why women are attracted to certain types of men, and how the human "mating dance" works, you will SEE things differently. You'll understand things in a new way. It's like putting on a pair of 3-D glasses... and seeing things in a totally new way.