The girl I'm in love with just wants a casual relationship?

[Jimmy]

So I met the girl about 2 and a half years ago and I always thought she was cool. Then a few months ago she started getting into heavy metal (slayer, death, machine head etc.) after she hung around with me so much, so that was when I decided that I really like her.

I know it's weird but as a die hard metalhead it was kind of a big thing.

So we kissed for the first time a few months ago and have a few times since then. I always thought I was in love with her but I was never to sure. But a while back I went round to her house and we cuddled, made out and listened to music for a few hours and that was when I was sure that I was in love. But she has had bad experiences with relationships in the past and just wants us to be, to use her phrase, friends with benefits.

Now that would be ok for me because maybe we could slowly move forward and hope get something more, BUT she is doing this whole hang out and make out thing with a few other guys and it completely breaks my heart to even think about, and I introduced her to these guys, they are my friends. I know she has 2 other guys (maybe even 4 from what I have seen on some social media sites) and I feel so hurt.

I think she knows I like her, I've sort of mentioned it to her, but I'm not sure if she knows the full extent. We both agree that we cannot bear to lose each other, but she says if it's necessary then she will stop the friends with benefits thing, so to not hurt anyone, but either way I feel hurt.

I would do anything for her, and I cannot bear to imagine her with other people, and for me to be without her.

I would really appreciate it if someone could help me out because I have no idea what to do, cheers guys!

[Ellie]

You need to tell her how you feel, 100%.
Tell her everything you told us (don't mention you asked YA though), tell her how much you like her, tell her how it breaks your heart that she does this with other guys and if she says she "likes you but not ready for a relationship" then you know that she is just going to carry on with the other guys. So tell her how you feel and if she says no then I don't think your whole friends with benefits deal is worth it because you are just getting hurt.