My parents are JERKS, PLEASE HELP?

[Allthelawlz]

<ps im 13 bout to be 14> First, They do not allow me to express myself. No ear piercings, only one lobe. No hair dye, even temporary stuff. And they closely monitor how much makeup I wear. And up until last year they wouldn't let me straighten my hair. And they limit how I dress. For example, they do not let me wear band tshirts to school or pretty much anywhere except around the house. And they won't let me buy or wear certain types of shoes just because they don't like them. Also, my style has been going in a little of a scene direction and they go out of their way to tell me how stupid it looks. And last year, I had a very eclectic style and they always said I looked like a "goth queen at a flea market". No back to the hair dye, ALL the girls at my school are aloud to dye their hair. And most of them have more ear piercings then me. One girl has a belly-ring, and another has a nose stud (this girl is also about to get her tragus and snug pierced). Everyone at school gets to express themselves in all these different ways and I cant at all! They blame it on the school I go to and they think that everyone there has "too much money and too much time". But they are the ones that make me go to that school! (even though it costs them $10,000 a year) Also, they blame everything on me! When my friend dropped my phone, it was my fault for letting her touch it. Whenever my puppy has an accident, its my fault, even if they are watching her, its still my fault. And they always overreact. One time, I told a little white lie to avoid them freaking out (i know i shouldn't have but hey,I'm human) but my dad overreacted and screamed at me how i have "no conscience". Now I go to a religious school, so we get religion class and we had been studying people with no conscience and that would put me in the same category as Hitler. And they are always talking about how I'm always in a "bad mood". Also, they drag me to church EVERY WEEK. And they forced me to be an acolyte, which i HATE. I listen to Marilyn Manson, and they know, so now they are trying to make sure I stay religious forever, but the more thy force me to go to church, the more i HATE it. They are smothering me with all their ideas. They even keep trying to set me up with this boy from church. They're a bit subtle about it, but they need to stop. They have nice moments, but whenever I ask for ANYTHING they always go into jerk mode. Sometimes they even take away my computer just for asking for things. And they don't let me go to ANY concerts unless its something they like, like the Katy Perry concert they took me too early last year. Also, they never think I'm good enough. If I get a B+ on a test, they yell at me because its not an A. They force me to stay in Honor classes even though I HATE it and Honors Math is VERY hard for me. I've also been asking them to send me to public school, and they won't let me even though it would save them A LOT of money. But, when I ask to go to Wheeler, which is $30,000 a year they actually said maybe! They are both teachers, they do NOT have the money for a school like that, I was just asking because I was curious what they would say. Also, they are ALWAYS invading my privacy. They ask me EVERY day who I hung out with that day. And, they always examine my Facebook and ask me about EVERY little thing. I have twitter and instagram that they don't don't know about yet, but if they knew about them I'd be dead. Also, my friends and I have a little dream of being rockstars, we really want it but we know its not likely to happen, we just like to hope for it, but my parents constantly go out of their way to say how much i suck at singing. I seriously consider running away. I know how dumb that would be, but sometimes it seems like a better, more fun, happier option. What can I do? I'm sick of them being such @ssholes!
No, it is normal to be allowed to dye hair at my age. EVERYONE at my school is allowed to!

[Craig Barr]

Leave home.

[Cantankerous]

Nothing you say really sounds out of the norm. Most girls who are 13 are NOT allowed to color their hair or get more than 1 or two peircings. Makeup worn to school should be way more tame than what you would wear to the movies or something. It sounds like your peer group has parents who are abnormally permissive on those issues.

The monitoring is pretty standard and the constant communication with you about what you post on line is also kind of part of their job.

The instagram thing is pretty serious, posting images of your face on a public web site is a good way for them to end up on a creepy web advertiesment with "meet young girls in your area" under your face. Where do you think they get those images anyway, they certainly aren't paying models.

Sorry man but the constraints they put on you are pretty standard and not unacceptable. You need to keep communicating with them once things get all quiet the bad stuff happens.

----Srlsy I live in a very big city (not in the bible belt or anything) and 8th grade girls are mostly not allowed to dye their hair. I swear. It might be true in your school but it's not for most.

Keep pressing your parents about what you want and keep complaining as a parent they need to hear it even if it's annoying for them and frustrating for you.

[KittyC]

My dad has the same attitude. He wont let me hang out with friends or go anywhere. I get very upset too but that's how it is. in a way, he wants me to be a well behaved girl and doesn't want me to end up all screwed up. i know he just wants the best for me. try telling them how you feel and be CLEAR of what upsets you and what doesn't, trust me, it will help. (:

[Rae]

ooh look everyone, the first teen in history to think her parents are @ssholes we need to document it and do reserch in to WHY this could be

[Luckyglue367]

I read about 1/3 of this and I already have an answer. Their house their rules. Five years from now you will be an adult and do whatever you please but for now go to therapy or something, just listen to your parents.

[Beastly Iguana]

Wahhhh! My parents pay for my clothes, food, shelter, electronics, and entertainment and want me to have a good life and be smart but I hate them! Wahhhh!