When rebound girl remains friends with family?

[Donna M]

My husband & I have been married 15 yrs. we separated for a yr. bc of various things. I wanted it. Of course rebound girl was on call. Any way, he was seeing her long distance for a year. After that I was back,he was trying for 6 months to break up with her. Now it's over. They don't talk. I have been checking her fb to see what she says or if she is still friends with the fam. She is friends still with all of them but my hubby. It drives me nuts bc she is the reason I won't be friends on fb with them. She was stalking me entire time my hubby and I were separated. How I know that? She would ask things about me that I would post on fb and sometimes I was joking with friends or I would get emails/notifications that she was checking me out. Anyway she posts stuff as she has let go but in reality she hasn't. She is still friends with all family members. Even though she knew some of them from before she hadn't been around for the last 16 yrs also some of them she didn't know from before. She is still communicating with them. Why? If it was me I would remove everyone. Considering my hubby dumped her. What thd heck she wants? It's really weird for me.

[Living the Dream]

"he was trying for 6 months to break up with her"
Well. That's just a giant line of bull. This is how it should've been "Hey X, this is Y. I'm going to work things out with my wife. It's over. Don't call me." Then he blocks her number from his phone and blocks her from social media. It doesn't take 6 months.

If she's pathetic enough that she needs to stay friends with his family, but she isn't causing any trouble, just leave it be. Unless you're willing to message EVERYONE and explain everything and ask them to unfriend her, you can't do anything.

[Amy]

I also paused for a moment at that 6 month comment. What exactly do you mean it took 6 months? And by the way, rebound girl? What kind of guy keeps a rebound girl to begin with? And what is this seeing her long distance for a year? Listen, your question is bringing up many more questions. You mean he was having an emotional affair with her for a year before you separated? Is she the reason? And then you came back and said bam, I want to work things now and he said okie dokie and that's it? What took 6 months? Were you "talking to him" for 6 months about working it out? How long was he with her so that she got all of his fam's facebooks? Can't blame her for keeping in touch with his fam if he's going to bring her around his fam. And what you would do isn't necessarily what she would do, she has a separate identity, you know. She is a human being.

I'm sorry, but how exactly do you expect this person who innocently got caught up in the crossfire of your marriage to lay back and take it? She clearly liked him to get back with him from way back, and even to associate so closely with his him. Not trying to make you feel bad but I am seriously trying to figure out what kind of person your hubby is to do this to another woman, and who are you to be expecting her to detach so easily?

[Taurean]

Are you sure your hubby has dumped her? Even if he has dumped her, she may not have dumped him.

[HooBoo]

Do yourself a favour and delete your Facebook profile then never go near it again. At the moment it is YOU who is stalking her. If she is nothing to do with your life then just leave it be. You cannot control who she is friends with or how she behaves, whether on Facebook or, heaven forbid, in real life. You need to move on. If you can't move on and let this go then you and your husband's relationship is over anyway so what does it matter.

[Liz]

It may be weird to you, but you don't get to dictate who can be friends with whom. You decided to give your marriage another chance after your temporary separation and your husband having another relationship in between - this situation you have now is the result of that. Learn to live with it.

[Poopy, Just Poopy]

You're correct, it's nuts that you're concerned with who a complete stranger is friends with over the internet when it has no impact whatsoever in your real, non-internet life.