Does he like me? Really sorry about the essay but any answer would be extremely appreciated :)?

[TheGoalkeeper]

Right so there's this cute guy I really like. He is adorable and too nice (as far as I know). I actually thought he was gay. I've known him for a couple of months and we've been out together about three times now.

After we met, we talked a couple of times over Facebook and he told me he was not gay even though people thought he was (relieved). We talked loads closer to when I asked him out to watch the film.

The first time, we went to watch a film with my friends (he knows one of them but doesn't know any of the others at all. He didn't know the friend of mine he knew was coming though). I gave him my number the night before and he texted me about 5 times just before the film to let me know where he was and how long he'd take. He was half an hour late in the end. This was the first time we hugged and I guess I initiated it and he did hug me back.

Throughout the adverts, we talked a lot and laughed a lot and even during the film we exchanged a couple of looks, gestures and expressions. He talked to my other friends a bit but as far as I saw, he wasn't really flirting or anything; just the usual 'Hey, who are you'. He didn't even talk too much to my gorgeous blonde friend and she was clearly flirting with him. When we were about to leave, I hugged him again and he asked me how I was getting home. Because my friend (the one he knows) and I had to walk a long way to the station, he offered us a lift. He asked me about the blonde girl though; he asked whether she was American and I got slightly concerned. He hugged me first when we got out of the car (this time he initiated the hug) but then he hugged my friend as well so I didn't know whether he was just being really nice or he did actually like me. Later when we were on the train, my friend told me that when she was talking to him, he was looking at me but I was looking at her and she was looking at him. But I don't know if she was just trying to say this to make me feel better.
When I got home, I had a Facebook message from him asking me whether I had got home okay. I asked my friend whether she had got one and she hadn't. We chatted for a while but he left the conversation first.

We talked almost every day on Facebook after that and some days, for hours but he always leaves the conversation first.

We then saw each other, a week later, at this interschool event thing that was going on. And yes, he goes to a different school to me. I saw him once at the beginning and exchanged a few faces and looks and a bit of lip reading but after that he didn’t look at me at all. He didn’t see me nor did he look for me so I was starting to get slightly upset. At the end of it, I didn’t even get to say good bye to him because he had to run for his bus. He was with my other friend (the same one in the film). But he sent me an apology text about not being able to see me and that he would see me later.
Our Facebook conversations continued but he didn’t mention anything about the event again and neither did I.

Couple of weeks later, he asked me out to come and play golf. Apparently he just wanted to practise and was wondering if I'd come along with him. I'm not a fan of golf but I agreed to come along and try. I thought he might have invited my other friend as well but she said he hadn’t been. He said that his best friend might be coming along and that I could invite someone if I wanted to (I didn't). In the end, it turns out his friend decided not come so it was just the two of us. He texted me twice before we just met asking me where I was. He called me once for the first time when I did get there.

It was fairly dark and we walked and talked loads; just the general stuff. I gave him a Christmas card as well. It was here when I offered to take him up to London to show him around and he did agree. He paid for the golf stuff for me and he held the door open for me and it was really adorable. We had fun, we laughed and talked and even when there were moments of silence, he’s always the one to initiate and break the silence. On our way back, we talked more and he asked if I wanted to get something to eat and we stopped at McDonald’s. Again, he offered to pay for my food but I refused. We sat down and chatted for a while and he told me he hadn’t been to McDonald’s in a long time. He walked me to the station and I hugged him properly. Although, I did embarrass myself a couple of times during this; my paper bag broke and I had to carry my trainers. I had a loose folder and my badminton racket bag broke as well. I just had so much stuff. He offered to carry it all and he picked it all up and carried it all and I had to take it all back from him. He kept insisting but I was like ‘no, it’s okay’. That night, he facebooked me asking whether I had got home okay.
Our Facebook conversations reduced quite a lot after this and he hadn’t said anything for nearly 4 days. I thought I had completely put him off but it turns out that he had a lot of work to get out of the way and then we talked again. I’ve noticed he doesn’t reply for ages and always replies in chunks and huge paragraphs; I don’t know why he does that. I sent him couple of pictures of things I was doing over Facebook and he relied with a couple of pictures too. They were usually pictures of the cakes I made and he would give a critical analysis and reply with something he made.
I saw him a couple of weeks later and I knew he needed gloves for Christmas (because he mentioned it on our last date) so I got him those and he asked me what I wanted. I gave him a vague ‘something that will last a long time’. I wasn’t expecting a present at all but he got me a Christmas card with a card essay and a book that you could decorate the front of and asked me to decorate it. I thought that was really sweet. He hugged me then and he had a Christmas card for my other friend as well (the same one) and he hugged her as well. I got confused again whether he was just really nice or whether he did like me.
A week later, I invited him to a sushi event that I was hosting with some of my other friends and he said he was doing something that weekend and didn’t like fish. I invited him to go up to London with some of my other friends and he said he was doing something that weekend as well. In the end my London trip was cancelled because not many people were coming. I really began to lose hope whether he liked me at all. I thought I should try one last time before giving up completely and I invited him to go up to London, just me and him, and he agreed. I have no idea why because it was the same weekend as the sushi trip! I even remember him telling me he doesn’t like the underground so why was he coming?
He texted me once and called me twice before we met up yesterday. We went all around London and he took a couple of pictures of me and asked if I wanted him to take more pictures of me (on his phone). We took our first picture together and he put his arms around me when I tried to get closer. We talked loads and pretty much every silence was broken by him. He asked me loads about myself, my childhood, family, etc. What I found amazing is that when he talks to me, he looks straight into my eyes and nowhere else and smiles (he has beautiful eyes as well so I unknowingly just stare back). He mentioned something about something he watched on TV which was about people having girlfriends. I occasionally get really close to him and my arm touches his but he never moves away. When it was time to go, London was extremely busy.
When we got on the underground, we were so close to each other. I was literally against him and he didn’t move away, he just stood there looking down at me. I thought it was amazing but I thought it might get a bit awkward for him. I looked up for a couple of seconds and he was looking down at me and smiling, I smiled and I looked away and moved away slightly, we were still very close. Argh, I want to relive that moment! I guess it was me who was a bit shy and not him! My confidence just poured out, I think I might have blushed, I didn’t really know if should have stayed like that for longer. Shame it only lasted a minute or two. We got a seat in the end and we sat down next to each other. I felt like, I don’t know and I just looked out of the window. We changed a couple of trains and I kept looking out of the window but looked back at him when he said something.
When we were on the last train, I commented on him being really skinny and I took his arm and he didn’t move it away, he just willingly gave it to me. We were comparing arm sizes (how romantic). When I had to get off, he hugged me again and I think I was the one to pull away first. I got out and he was looking at me. I looked back and he was looking at me as if I had forgotten to do something. I should have kissed him! That was the moment! He was still looking at me and I turned around suddenly and he had the confused, disappointed look which suddenly changed into a smile when I looked at him. I hadn’t realised until I got out of the train and then thought about it. Oh my god! But what if he doesn’t like me?! And if I just suddenly helped myself to his lips, that would have been really embarrassing but it would have clearly given him the idea that I really liked him.
He texted me pretty much immediately after I got out asking me to text him when I got home. I did and he didn’t reply for ages so I got worried whether he got home okay. I rang him three times and he picked up on the third time and I was like ‘Omg, did you get home okay?’ and he was like ‘Yeah, yeah, oh I’m so sorry, I did’. I said that I just wanted to know if he was okay and it was a really short conversation. I told him I’ll be on Facebook if he needed anything and he immediately went on and apologised for not texting back and worrying me. He also said ‘You rang me three times ’ with a smiley and he seemed really happy about that.
We haven’t talked since yesterday and I’m really confused. He is SO nice (too nice) and I’m just not sure I deserve him or whether he actually likes me in the first place. I think he does but you can never be sure and I don’t know if I’ve interpreted his reactions and expressions correctly. He smiles a lot when he’s with me. I don’t know how he is with other girls and his friends. He could be like that to them as well. He’s just sweet and he hugs everyone. I’m not even sure if he has a girlfriend?! I didn’t think so but I don’t know for sure. I’ve been rolling out with all these random thoughts for ages now and I just want to know whether this is going to get serious or not! I have no idea?! I think it will but I have absolutely no experience in this…aspect of life so I could be really wrong. Please help :’(

[Jo]

i personally think he likes you, ill admit i do too tell people how far away i am and ask them how far away they are, even if i dont like them because i dont like making people wait but everything he has done seems to be signs that he likes you. hope it works out. xoxo

[Beesknees]

Umm...what's the question?

[John W]

Its really tough to tell if he likes you as a friend or more than that. Since he hasn't tried to kiss you I'll go with just friends, sorry.

[Anna]

Hi! This is a cute story because you clearly like this guy a lot and I'm pretty sure he likes you too. However, I am currently in a similar situation so I know why you feel a bit shy sometimes. I have some suggestions for you which you may feel comfortable doing since you seem quite close to this guy:

1) You could try and kiss him on the cheek as a 'thank-you' for something or to say 'Happy New Year' or something like that. I think this is a good idea because you said you were too nervous to try and full on kiss him on the lips but to kiss him on the cheek seems reasonable and you could see how he responds to that. You never know, he might try kiss you on the lips after that!

2)You could straight up ask him how he feels about you. This seems like a big step but it seems like you are pretty comfortable talking to this guy. Whether you do this over facebook or face to face is up to you but if you do it in person you may be able to read his reaction better. You could say something like 'Do you want to start dating?' or 'Are you looking for a girlfriend/relationship right now?' or 'Do you think of me as a friend or something more?' Or you could also just tell him how you feel and tell him that he doesn't need to feel the same way back but you just wanted him to know how you felt because you couldn't keep it in any longer.

I hope this helps but I'm sure you'll make the right decision in the end! I hope things go well for you, I have a similar question which is open on Yahoo Answers just now so perhaps you could help me with mine? Thanks, and good luck!