How do I forget my ex girlfriend?

[KANE]

Im 17. My ex and I were dating for a round 4 months, which i know is a short time. I genuinly felt like I loved her when she broke up with me. Only for her to be with another guy only three weeks later. Im not sure if i was cheated on, but anyway, i became extremly atached to her. testement to her beauty is the fact thatt She's done modelling in the past and has a perfect body. She's also really funny and we got on so well. To be honest alot of guys were after her at the time and well, I won. I got the girl

She broke up with me 4 months ago and I havnt seen her since that day. I have had two small phone conversations since then. Since she broke up with me she turned cold and harsh overnight to me and i didnt understand. It was so horrible. She broke up with me rightfully because i was really mean to her one time. But I just felt like shit because she would arrange to meet up and not show, tice1 and then also she would laugh at me not having many freinds and that I was missing her. and also there she was with a new bf after three weeks of splitting with me and I was still severly depressed and basically tearing up each night. Its only now that im beggining to like ohter girls again. But i still feel like a i miss her so much, its painfull tbh

The problem was. I was very insecure about many things. My academic success, my appearence, my social status the fact that she had done it and I hadnt. Many issues in my life were kindof solved by her presence. This is, really a very potent combination. Low self esteem, insecurities and loneliness and depending on one person to erradicate it all. I felt even shitter when 1 week later she was partying with freinds meeting new boys and looking as jaw droppingly beautiful as ever. I mean i know girls like me and im having a 1 year body tranformation, im getting ripped so its all going to be fine but it really depressed me how quickly she moved on. It made me feel worthless.

i dont wan to think about her i dont want to miss her. I just want to forget her and build myslef up to be the best possible person I can be. I recognise i have much potential and success ahead of me, So how do I forget this bitter sweet beauty that I Loved?

[Andy J]

Yo Kane what's up, I just had a similar situation like yours just recently. I'm 18 and my gf of almost 6 months broke up with me on christmas eve, she broke up with me on txt lied to me (blah blah blah etc. yeah it sucked and she destroyed my personality within a matter of minutes). But anyways, I was crushed and I genuinely loved her, what's more she faked about loving me also for about a month. So take it from me since I've been in your shoes, you have to move on! Yes she was gorgeous and she lit up your life but it was a calling for you my friend. It was a wake up call to tell you that yes you were good enough to get someone like that in the first place. You can be happy on your own single and successful. The best way to heal is to forget. Throw out pictures of you two, delete her contact, unfriend her on social media and get rid of everything that reminds you of her in your life. Once you have done that, GET BUSY!!! For myself, creating something helped significantly, whether it be creating art or creating a new ripped body for yourself. Creating something shows positive progress in your own life and you will be happy with what you see. Also try your hardest to get out there and meet new people and meet your friends. Sure it will hurt knowing you are faking it but you have to get back into the groove of having your self confidence up there and being socially active. Ultimately you need to let yourself know that you are capable of so much. FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT, practice smiling even when you don't feel like. Physically it will release chemicals in the brain that will help to make you feel happy. Lastly revenge, the sweetest revenge is being happy and successful. For yourself, get ripped, get educated, GET HAPPY. Go out meet some new girls and set goals of getting rejected so you can get experience with the opposite sex. If these don't start working within a couple weeks, you need daily affirmations (write down positive messages and repeat them to yourself at least 10 times a day verbally and then mentally). All in all, you need to believe in yourself; the power of belief conquers all. Best of luck friend!