Should I tell my ex I'm expecting his baby or keep it to myself?

[Claudia]

I just found out I'm 10 weeks pregnant yesterday and my ex broke up with me 2 months ago and called off our wedding which was going to take place in April. He is now dating an ex girlfriend from childhood that his parents love and they always pushed him towards this girl while we were dating. They even went to Europe last year and I thought it was just my ex and his parents and then this girl and her family show up at the same place. His family always thought I was after their money and that their only son was to good for me. I feel like he broke up with me because his family didn't like me and when we broke up he told me he wanted someone who was Jewish and that it wasn't just religion but that I'm also Mexican American and these relationships rarely work out. I tried really hard to work things out because I loved him so much and was so excited about the wedding but he told me to not send out the invitations for the wedding because it wasn't going to happen. I ended up telling everyone the wedding wasn't going to happen and moved out of state to be with my grandmother. I have PCOS and rarely have regular menstrual cycles so I honestly had no idea I was pregnant. This morning I fainted at work and when I went to the hospital they told me I was pregnant and 10 weeks along. The first thing that came into my head was to terminate the pregnancy but the doctor says its rare for women with PCOS to get pregnant and my grandmother told me I can't stay with her if I terminate because its murder. I just don't want to have any type of ties with my ex and I just want to heal from this entire experience but it is very hard knowing that I'm carrying his baby. In different circumstances I would be overjoyed at being pregnant but right now I'm just so depressed. I know if I carry to term and give birth I won't be able to see the baby and give it up but I also don't want my ex involved. Would it be wrong to have this baby and not tell my ex? He has moved on with his life and looks very happy with his current girlfriend on his Facebook page. His family looks very happy too and I would only be creating drama if I brought up my pregnancy. Financially it will be hard but not impossible to raise a child alone.








.

[Stop Using My Name]

I hate to say this because I don't want to seem mean but your ex has a right to know he helped bring a child into the world.

[:))]

Well think about it...you're keeping your child away from its father do you really want that?
He doesn't have to get back with you, he doesn't even have to be in the child's life if he doesn't want to. Personally I think you should tell him and keep that window open between you two.
A child doesn't need two parents as long as your kid had you that's all he of see needs.

[Rachael]

If you were your Mom and he were your Dad what would you have wanted your parents to have done?

[Nicole]

The choice is completely up to you. He doesn't want to be in your life, he made that clear, so why should he get to be in your child's? But I would definitely considering keeping the baby, like the doctor said, its very hard for you to get pregnant, you may never get this chance again, you'd be devastated if you gave away the only baby you could ever have. The closer you get to having the baby, and the longer it is in you, the closer connection you will have! But no matter what you choose, I wish you best of luck!

[Suzy Q]

The only time I think it is justified not to inform the father, is when he's actually abusive and could be a threat to the child's safety.

By the way, it is patently untrue that women with PCOS rarely have kids. Most women with this condition DO conceive children, in some cases with a little medical help. When you make your final decision, please don't think this is some sort of miracle and your last chance to ever have a child. It's not.

[Kayla]

Definetely let him know! Nothing bad can happen. He may ask you to abort but it's YOUR BODY! So you don't have to listen to him. He can then choose if he wants to be in the babies life or not. Being a single mother is hard, my mum did it for 4 kids. But she managed and is happier than ever. I'm so proud of her.
If his parents never liked you, you can't help that. Just let him know the situation and see how things roll out.

[Jessica]

Just send him a ultrasound pic with your name and letter and if he cares he will call and that way you wont speak to him but hell know and it well be up to him to be a MAN!