How to get out more while I'm in my early twenties ? (please read)?

[Brittany]

So basically I've lost all of my childhood/highschool friends since moving to my current neighborhood a few years back. And the people from surrounding areas who tried to befriend me turned out to be weirdos. The neighborhood itself is ghetto, unsanitary, the shops are unhealthy (I'm a vegetarian btw) and the crime rate sometimes escalates a bit. I don't fit in at all. Most of the girls around here are kinda skanky, have baby daddy drama, superficial and don't seem to take care of themselves. Most of guys are completely disrespectful towards woman, look at them like they are pieces of meat, talk to them like they are all sex objects and can't seem to talk about anything else but weed, money, sex and alcohol.

I am consistently always looked at funny because I dress differently or made fun of because I step to the bear of my own drum. Once they find that I don't talk like them or
they find that I'm not claiming to be a "bad b*tch" and purposely do stupid things for attention......they walk off. I spent many years online as a teen up until 21 just chatting with folks. But after a while these seemingly "nice" people turned out to be either sociopaths, users/abusers, selfish, catty, unreliable, etc. I got too tangled on there and one day just detatched myself from chat rooms and etc because I was ignoring too many of my responsibilities.

Nowadays I'm even pretty tired of social media. I deleted my Facebook because there were too many weirdos, fake friends and friend collectors. Twitter to me is basically like Facebook. I've grown tired of most forums that pertained to some of my interests because the people on there were pompous elitist jerks. And the rest of the social sites I tried were just boring or turned out to be sex crazed. Virtual reality games I tried were just full of negative and toxic people with issues and the rest just sucked. The only place I'm really active on is a fashion themed blog that I made and a gaming site where I share creations of mine.

I really want to get out to different places and take classes (yoga, pottery, sewing, paranormal, etc) but I'm anxious about having to pay a lot of money or they will be full of older people. An aquaintence of mine recommend that I go to concerts more but my music taste kinda just drastically changed recently and I'm not feeling the bands that I use to like for a few years anymore. Should I just try it anyways ? lol , also could anyone suggest additional great places\events\etc for someone within my age group. ?

[ken123]

Well, you actually share a mouth full! I am very pleased to have read your thoughts and concerns. Early twenties is a time for exploring new areas in one's life. However, it does not give anyone the right to explore with drugs and unsafe sex (unless you are committed to someone). I suggest you find time to make REAL friends in your life. These are people who will make a positive contribution in your life.

[Grebu]

Listen to your heart and family. You have a very healthy problem and it sounds like you have your priorities straight. Since you are twenty I bet higher education past high school will be a good place to meet like minded people. Or maybe working a job that includes an interest you may have. But no sounds like you are better than the low lifes. Do not feel bad if you do not fit in. You will in time

[oogabooga37]

I know what it's like to not fit in around certain types of people, so I can sympathize. It sounds like you are a person who has more ambition and self-respect than those around you, so the most obvious answer is to make plans to move to a more suitable community. We moved an hour from our old address, and it was a great move for my kids. I think you should continue to explore any groups which share your interests in fashion or gaming or anything else that interests you. Part of the key is to try to form relationships wherever you find them and don't lose them unless they're not compatible. I'm sure we all have tons of missed opportunities when you think about it.