I need fuking help. PLEASE. HELP. ME. #depressed?

[anon]

ok ignore my hashtag i just really need a lot of answers. so i was friends with this guy from camp and we became really tight. but he had a major crush on me and was in love with me and i knew that but i also told him i dont look at him that way. so we were supposed to hang out and he couldnt make it so i went clubbing with my friend and lost my v card. and i thought because we told each other everything he'd be more supportive (or something like that) but instead he said he was crushed and hurt and deleted me off everything, facebook and skype and told me to delete his number. He also texted me in the text i know im going to regret this when im missing you so much. Honestly im depressed right now, losing a friend like that. I don't know how to just accept the fact that he can't talk to me anymore because he knows i dont feel about him that way. Also like why the hell do guys act like this? I mean like we've been honest with each other about everything and shit and like he lives far from me too, so did he expect like a relationship or something? and like he's hu with hoes too and im just so puzzled. like he made such a big deal out of it too and honestly blamed it on me, like it was my fault. So anyone have any answers? like what happened here?
also we texted for about an hour debating and he told me he loved me and that he was crushed and i told him i loved him back and i was really trying to get him back but honestly he just kept on giving me shit. it just hurts to know that you've hurt someone this bad, because you thought that by doing the right thing (telling them) would be ok. But it's not and now i've lost a really good fucking friend that i actually cared for so much. there's no point in talking to him since im pretty sure he needs time and he said that he's never been this disregarded. and literally a month ago he was debating on whether he should fuck this other girl. so like wtf.

[hoovarted]

Are you a guy?
Because if you are then my opinion is you don't need fuking help. Or at least you don't need straight fuking help. It sounds to me like this guy is queer and he wants you to get some gay fuking help.
If you're a girl I don't believe you will need too much fuking help because this guy sounds like he can show you everything you need to know.

[Docthal]

i dont think he is playing games i think he really liked you and is upset that it's not going to work out.

The quality of any kind of relationship is the extent of which it meets the needs of both partners. And he is definately expecting way more out of your end than you are out of his. The result is that you are thinking "what's wrong? we are getting along fine!" because you are getting everything you want out of the relationship, while he is thinking "this is awefull why dont you love me??" because he isnt getting nearly enough of what he wants out of the relationship.

And i use relationship as a broad term, not necessarily a romantic one because i know you two were not at that level.

Anyway, it is never going to work unless he loses some of his interest in you, and/or you become more attracted to him, And neither of you can force yourselves to do that because attraction is in your heart and you cant force yourself to like somebody that you simply dont, or to lose interest in somebody that you simply love.

So if you expect him to forget about his feelings for you and have a relationship that is on your level, it's not going to happen and it's not fair for you to expect him to do that. Just like it is unfair for him to expect you to fall in love with him all the sudden.

On a side note though, do you have like a line of boys waiting to date you? He seems to really care about you and he seems to be a really important friend to you too. Isn't that enough? Is it worth breaking his heart and hurting yourself because you "just dont see him that way?"