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M · 03-07-2014, 04:37 PM

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months now, and we get along very well. We're both 23 years old, and very serious in our relationship. That said, I know he is very close with one of his female friends who he previously used to like as well. I've never met her, but he says that she does know about me and our relationship. I know they hangout together one on one as well. About two months ago, my boyfriend became very distant. And though he claimed to be busy with work, I always felt like he was exerting his time/energy else-where. For an example, he went to lunch and the movies with her, while him and I had no chance to meet. He also previously told me that ever since she found out about our relationship, she's been annoyed with him.

Currently, my boyfriend has been gone to vacation for about a month - it's been only been a week since he left. So he constantly puts up pictures on Facebook of where he is and such and she always likes them - but that didn't bother me. What bothered me was her recent comment. He put up a picture a few hours ago, and of course, she was the first to like them AND she comments saying "Can you come back already!?" he replies with "no" and she replies with "haha, you're not funny!" It just made me feel like SHE was the anxious girlfriend waiting for his return.

I'm just super confused. I trust my boyfriend, but his distant behavior about 2 months ago, has me constantly skeptical about his relationship with her. He knows how I feel and has even opted to let me check his phone/Facebook - but I didn't take up the offer. Should I be concerned?

Brenda Fleming · 03-07-2014, 04:44 PM

Honestly, just confront him about it. If its truly bothering you then tell him how you feel. Ask him go choose between the two of you.

Bro Street · 03-07-2014, 04:51 PM

Its a tough situation but do what you think is the smartest thing, worrying about it in the end will not be the best thing for yourself

Bro Street · 03-07-2014, 05:01 PM

sweetie then you need to tell him how you feel. There is nothing wrong with him having a female friend but sounds to me if he has liked her before, he still does. He does not need to be giving her valuable time he should be spending with you. Just to see how he reacts, why not ask him if you 3 can go to lunch or dinner sometime so you can meet this special female friend he seems to love devoting his time to. You have every right to be concerned just like any female. Your bf needs to understand if she is a female friend, THAT IS ALL SHE NEEDS TO BE! If he cant get with the program then its time to move on because things will only get worse from here and you will slowly but surely loose trust in him.