What does he mean by this?

[Sportystar]

I visited my friend during her class, and my crush and his friend were there as well. My crush started asking us who we thought were the hottest guys in our grade. They said who they thought were the hottest girls in THE GRADE BELOW US, which was weird. My friend said no one, and I stalled because the only guy I like is him. But him and his friend were hanging on my word, so I just said my type is tall and smart, able to carry a conversation. He goes "Oh. I'm stupid haha. But there IS a difference between smart and being able to talk to someone!"

I agreed. NOTE, this guy is tall, and I like talking to him!


Then he went through his facebook friend list asking us to say "hot or not" for each guy, they would do the same for the girls. He kept trying to rush us because I was going to leave soon.

The odd thing was that he would not really listen to what my friend said, rather, he'd keep staring at me after he said a guy's name and wait for my answer, even if my friend answered already. ALSO, he would stop at a couple guys, and ask "so what about him, he's tall?"

Then- he landed on my name. He goes, "Here's an awesome one! -[my name here]-!" And I joked around and said, haha yeah what about that chick? He said they'd talk about that later, or something like that.


What I noticed is that when his entire group of guys is like super perverted or something stupid like that, when I'm there, its like he's holding back lol. And when we were going through the "hot or not" thing, I asked "Why does each one have to be I'd tap that or I'd bang her?" He replied, " Oh no you can marry too!"


Also idk if this helps, but he laughed at my stories/jokes, even if they werent that funny lol.
****ALSO when I wasn't there, he asked his friend if he thought that I was cute, and they agreed that I am cute.

[PIE123441]

yeah okay he really likes you theres no doubt about that

[James W.]

Men at times are hard to figure out.

It sounds like you might be making dating choices mainly based upon whether someone likes you and you like them. Unfortunately this approach to dating, used by most people, usually leads to a broken heart.

May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), puts forth their best effort, and displays self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money).

My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already), forget about this guy unless he’s a strong person, and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

(Please remember that you eventually want a 40, 50, or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

Hope this helps!