Seeking the best "pay back" ? ?

[anisa]

Ok, so I have a dear friend whose going through a hard time. She's been married to this guy for 5 years, on and off marriage. They have 2 kids together. Everytime he decides to leave her, he forgets about his kids, makes a new facebook page with all his bad friends, his ex's and he knows she sees that all. I can't blame him but her for always being behind his A**. Shes always calling his mom to find out about him, she (his mom) always replies with the same thing "he doesn't mention you, only the kids"- shes constantly crying over him. She sends him msgs and blames herself when its him! She tries to call his mom so he can see the kids but he doesn't care. The day he left she didn't even know. I tell her to stop calling his mom, stop looking at his facebook and plan a trip to escape from this jerk! So she went ahead and even told his mom about the trip to see if she told him and wait for his reaction? What can I advise my friend without truly hurting her. What can she do to hurt him?

[JL]

She doesn't need to hurt him, she needs to sue for child support and otherwise cut him out of her life.

[Killia]

Do what my parents did....find someone new and show the ex that you're happy and better off without them.

[Kurt]

You and your friend should have a threesome with me and we will take video of it and send it to him and his mom.

[Happy-2]

I don't understand why you believe she should hurt him. Instead, she should focus on taking care of herself and of her children.

[Grover]

What the hell is an "on and off marriage" ?

I this really where people's heads are at these days? If so, we're doomed.

[RobertRay]

Doing something to hurt him is pointless. She just needs to get away from him but that's not going to happen as long as he can snap his fingers and she comes running.

When it comes to her marriage, there is nothing you can do to convince a person who is blinded by love to feel differently than they do. This woman is obviously a total doormat to this guy and has zero self esteem. She will only get out when she decides to, and that might be never, unless he ends it for good.

[l8tr g8tr]

She can get some therapy. Counseling would be very, very beneficial for her.

[Bradley]

Payback? How about finally divorcing and getting child support? Then moving on with her life and forgetting him. The best revenge is moving on and being happy.