I need to break up with her...?

[Not Me]

*I'm in 9th grade* My gf and i started dating two months ago, but she's the clingiest girl ever. Not paranoid, but she's way too dependent on me and I'm worrying. I don't connect to her as much as I thought I did, but she's already planning out our freaking future together and loves me. I'm really coming to not like her at all, but I don't know how to break up with her. Her whole last year has been hell though and apparently I'm the only thing besides her supportive friends that kept her from killing herself. I almost tried to do it before, but then she started texting other friends saying she was close to suicide. Apparently I'm one of her only hopes, and she's too weak to handle me leaving. How do I make her stronger without making her be even more dependent on me? I feel like I'm carrying all of this girl's weight on my back and I hate it. How can I gently get her to become less dependent? And then after working on it for a while and she's okay again, how do I gently break up with her? Please, I hate this relationship.

[Subinyte]

Oh, difficult one... Good luck...
You could try to talk her into going to a psychologist, that would be one of good things to do as he would know more of what is possible to do.
You could also be a bit cold to her everyday. If she worries why are you not showing love, you then show some (a little bit) of love, but just a bit. That will cool off her feelings in time. Don;t have much time for her. You should be busy with important things. Be sorry for that. Time cools everything off, time heals everything.
You can think of doing some things that she would not like (but not hurt her).

But really, your situation is very personal and it's really hard to say what you should do. I really hope she gets well and you two find your peace.

[Mircat]

An emotionally needy person who makes you their primary support and go-to person can be exhausting and draining. If she has been talking suicide then she needs a professionally trained psychologist and that's not you. If she was using suicidal talk as a way to emotionally blackmail and guilt trip you and/or her friends in giving her the attention she wants then she's got even more issues than you think.

Wait until after New Year's for the break up. Stop telling her you love her and you care and making statements of emotional caring because that sends the wrong signals. If you want to drag it out a bit you can stop answering her calls and texts as quickly. Take some time to do it and don't see her every day. About mid-January you can tell her that you have given this a great deal of thought and you have finally decided that you need to be free from the claustrophobic feeling the relationship gives you and that you are not interested in planning a future together. You tell her that you wish her the very best of luck and that the two of you are not on the same page and it's best to call a halt to things now. Then you never say another bad word about her to anyone! If I were you, I'd have my best friend with me or very near by because you have no idea if this wacko is going to throw a scene and claim you said all kinds of things so you want to CYA with a witness.

Then you give her these sites:

https://www.imalive.org/

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

http://www.boystown.org/hotline

http://www.beinggirl.com/article/teenage-suicides/ - this site is for you to read

If you are friendly with her best friend or best friends then you can forward these sites to those girls in case she starts talking suicide and they have the resources to refer her to. Do that AFTER you break up not before!

Then you block her on all social media so she does not inundate you texting and calling! Change your number if necessary.

In the future, get a good understanding of the girl's mental state and issues before you ask her to be your girlfriend. If she's having family problems, don't ask!

Best of luck!