My best friend is starting to annoy me?

[Alias Squid]

I have been her best friend for probably two years now. I have had issues with her because I'm jealous of her, but I have talked to her about it. It didn't do much. Now, she's just starting to annoy me.
- She started going out with a guy the day before winter break. They only went out for five days until she said she didn't want to date him anymore because some guy said he didn't think they'd be together. So, she broke up with the guy who she said was the cutest guy in our grade. That annoyed me because she said she liked him for a while, and he said he did too, but just because ONE guy said he didn't see that being a relationship, she broke it off. I felt bad for the guy she broke up with, and annoyed that she didn't even give the relationship a chance. But, it's none of my business. On Facebook (the social network that's a trap, I know) every guy who posts a status she comments on. There's this one guy in particular that she knows I like, and every status he made, she comments on. Now, she's his cover photo, he made a status saying she was one of the cutest girls on his friends list, and whenever I say something about him she'll say, "Really? Well, I'll ask him since I'm messaging him now." How irritating.
- She's a show off. She has a really...big butt. And she knows it. It's annoying to hang out with her when EVERY GUY openly compliments her about it. Ever since her first compliment, she'll do certain things to put attention on her butt. There's this one guy who really liked her, who she apparently also liked, but wouldn't date because "she couldn't." (She could, she just likes to be single so she can flirt). Whenever we're going to lunch, she'll leave me to get in front of him so he has a view of her butt. Then she'll make sure her shirt is up so everyone can see her stomach. One time, I had a lot of things in my hand and my shirt went up, then she told me, "Don't be nasty, put your shirt down." (Says the one who's shirt is always up).
- She rarely replies to my texts, but if I don't reply to her text right away, I "hate" her and then she has to spam me with the word "reply." It's like whenever I have something to say, she doesn't want me to say it, but when she has something to say, I have to be there to listen.
- She never invites me anywhere. She's ALWAYS hanging out with this one girl at her house, and I am friends with the girl but I don't talk to her a lot. The girl is always going to my best friends house, but whenever I ask to go to her house, she says that I wouldn't want to. I always ask. She always finds a way to tell me no. I brought up that situation to her and she got defensive. Right now, she's posting a lot of statuses about how her and the girl are hanging out, how much they love each other, blah blah. She said i'm her best friend, she got us best friend necklaces, but honestly I feel like someone she puts to the side outside of school.
- When I talked to her about me being jealous, I don't mean we talked about it and I got over it, I mean I told her about it and she just shook her head and smiled.

I know a lot of these things are just me being jealous, and PLEASE don't say "stop being jealous," but what can I do? Do I have any reason to feel annoyed?

[Sheila]

I understand what you're going through my friend acts like this plenty enough. It drives me insane I usually just make some space between us until it floats over I hope it gets better

[Nicole]

You have many reasons to be annoyed, she obviously doesn't care about your feelings or you, I'd say just try to make other friends who will actually be a good friend and not treat you like you're beneath them.

[Alice]

You might be jealous but if she knows that you are, and that it really does make you upset, then she should be a good enough friend to fix the problem. Personally i would just find a way to lay all these cards on the table and if she still doesnt respond the way you would like, then i would continue being friends with her but definitely distance yourself from her. If she's not gonna be a good friend then you don't have to try so hard either.

[Emily]

Of course you have a reason to be annoyed! If you find someone irritating, you can't help it, just like you can't help feeling jealous of someone. I can completely understand why you may feel jealous of her if she seems to get a lot of attention, but you have to remember that you probably have a lot of qualities that she doesn't have. It is good that you brought it up to her that you feel jealous, because that takes courage; the fact that she laughed about it is really mean and quite immature. You were sensible enough to talk to her, but she so easily dismissed it.

So, I'm not going to tell you to 'just stop feeling jealous of her' because I know that it is not that simple. All you can really do is think about your own strengths and qualities, and not focus on the attention that she gets.

You could also try thinking of good things about her whenever she begins to irritate you (this is providing that you actually wish to remain friends with her!) Good luck!

[384]

I know how you feel! It's happening to me right now. All I did was ignore it, if she gets out of control ignore HER. She will realise (hopefully)! You could also by get another close friend and spend time with her, you can also talk to her when she gets a clue that she's hurting you.
By all means, I hope my answer helped and I hope your problem gets solved :-) x

[Apongnwu]

I wouldn't call you jealous. you have every right to be annoyed. that's not jealousy, you used the wrong word! she is taking too much control in you guys friendship. she wants it her way all the time. I know and understand that friendships have difficulties, mine has too but they are just little issues and we get over it in a second!, but if it's one where it continuously hurts my feelings and annoys me, I will try to tell you and talk to you about it.you are not jealous. I know how you feel but if she is truly meant to be your best friend, your friendship will be very long

[That Curious Bi]

she is self absorbed and not a real friend. she only has u around tomake her feel like she has a following. i would demote her to maybe friend, but more like aquantance. u don't sound jealous. she's a jack-$5. drop her and find someone who values u for u. not just wants u to feed her insecurities and low senseof worth. not a good influenc at all. theis gives her away a100% "She rarely replies to my texts, but if I don't reply to her text right away, I "hate" her". she is also a control freak. not even worth being jealous of