help... my boyfriends threatening me..?

[Charlotte]

For a while me and him had an on and off relationship. He was an a** to me.. he would get mad if i didnt do what he wanted. one of the things he wanted me to do was send him nudes. which was stupid as hell i know.. i *thought* i loved him at the time. So i said alright and sent the. Even more stupidly my face was in them. on saturday night he was being awful and trying to get me to ruin my relationship i have with my best guy friend (who im inlove with tbh) and then i did what he said cuz i was scared. he scares me. Then he just kept getting worse and worse that night so i told him i hated him and we broke up. The next morning he chats to me. he said "hey xx" and starts talking to me normally.
Then he starts saying unless i get back together with him, send him more photos, and never speak to my best guy friend again, then he'll post the pictures on facebook. Which i know he'll do tbh. I didnt reply for 5 minutes because my internet crashed.. he changed his kik picture (the app we chat on) to me with no bra or top on. After 5 minutes i got him to change it back..
but ive been having to do whatever he says... hes scaring me a lot.. i asked him if he still loved me and he said "yes i love you" then i asked "why are you doing this then?" and he said "because i want you to be mine. and only mine" which was kinda creepy... then starts saying if i speak to my best guy friend - he'll put the photos on facebook. another thing he said was "its simple. do everything i want and they wont get posted" and he knows i hate him. he asked me "you dont like me very much do you?" and rn i have absolutely no choice but to be with him. i hate him. i absolutley hate him. but i have to continue f**king dating him! idk what to do... i cant continue dating him. ill kill myself if i do. but i cant break up with him either. if i do he'll post the photos on facebook...


sorry this is so long... thankyou x

[Chrystalle]

Play along and call the police if your underage, there are special police that can delete all photos and even if you are not underage without your consent they are illegal. Good luck.

[Rick B]

To over and get him all turned on, then take his phone and drop it in the toilet.

[Timothy Stephens]

GROW UP !!!!!! What a mess you are making of your life.DUMP THIS GUY NOW,GET HIM OUT YOUR LIFE.
Use your brain more and stop being so negative and weak.

[Gaurav]

sory i cant read your painful story but you need to inform your parents or COPS.

Dont hesitate just report it & make sure you dont go alone to report it

Be safe

Take care

[DundunDUN]

Damn...what a fucked up situation. Sorry to hear you're going through all of this. He is an ass...and doesn't sound like he 'wants you" to simply be his...sounds like he gets a real kick out of the power he has over you.

But anyway, on point. While reading this...I had a thought of something I would do if I were in your situation and thought to share it with you.

Do you have any idea where he has stored the photos? Phone, Ipod, computer, or all of them? Could you sneakily get access and delete them so that he has nothing to blackmail you with? It's also illegal to blackmail, too...well, depending what country you're in I'm guessing.
Problem with that course of action though is that the system can be soooo useless with reinforcing the law. Are you considered youth? If so, that may help...they may take a situation like this more seriously because of the age.

Anyway, those are just my thoughts.
Best of luck to you, honestly.

[?]

Yep. His sexually harassing you by making your topless photo his profile picture. Please contact the police asap, you'll be much happier

[Little vamp]

Call the police and tell them what he is doing .

[Juniper]

Sweetie, I know this is hard and it's scary as hell, but you need to drop EVERYTHING and go visit the police. Explain the situation to them and ask what can be done.

If you are a minor, and he has these photos of you, then he can go to jail for that. Problem solved, problem staying solved. They'll take his phone away and they'll probably confiscate his computer as well. Even if you're NOT a minor, the police may still be able to help. You can file a report for harassment and they'll help you on what to do from there. Don't threaten him; that won't scare him. Just do it. And if you are a minor, TELL YOUR PARENTS. I know that sounds completely out of the question; just admit your mistake and tell them you were scared of him, and ask for their help. They WILL want to protect their child.

But do not, I repeat DO NOT, let this guy control you. He wants to scare you; he's doing it and he KNOWS he is. Make him think you really just don't give a crap anymore; that might just prevent him from doing it if he thinks he can't hurt you by doing it, and add a threat of your own as well:

Tell him "Look. I'm NOT going to be with you. You can try to ruin my life and embarrass me if you want to, but you still won't have me, and I'm pretty sure everyone you show this picture to has already seen a girl naked anyway so I really don't think it will be that much of a revelation. Everyone sexts these days and I'm not sure why you think my life will be over. I trusted you with those pictures, and you do NOT have my permission to post them, and I'm really not sure why you think I'd want to be with you now when I KNOW I can't trust you. All you will have is a load of trouble from the police, because that's where I'm heading now with every threat you've ever made right here on my phone."

This is important: DO NOT give him permission. Word it carefully; don't in ANY way give him reason to legitimately say that you told him to "go ahead".

Then DO it. Go to the cops; YES, go. Show them every text, file a report, get a lawyer if you have to, but DO IT and don't back down.

Report him to Facebook as well; provide your contact information and tell them that you will be happy to provide screen shots from your phone of his threats. Nudity isn't allowed on Facebook; they WILL remove. He can keep making accounts, but you can keep reporting them. (I put in a link below; go ahead and do this)

Warn all your friends about this crazy idiot. Pass around the screen shots; show them what he's doing. Own it, tell them what's coming. They will think you're brave for not just cowering down.

Delete him off Facebook and block him; make all your stuff private as well. That way at least he won't have access to your friends list and other such things. Delete anyone that's friends with him, too. Trust NO ONE.

As much as you may be embarrassed about him posting these pictures, do NOT back down. You DO have another choice; own your mistake so others can learn from it, and make sure that in the process he gets more trouble than this crap was ever worth. Make everyone forget all about those pictures in light of the s#!t storm that's coming for him.

And apologize to your guy friend. TELL him the TRUTH. Yes, it's hard, but it's either that or be stuck with a psycho for the rest of your life.

Good luck....I hope it works out in your favor!

[Fruitful Living]

I am going to repeat what some of the other responders said, go to the police! If you are under age, tell your parents. If you are not, than find someone that can help and support you along the way. If you do not have a friend, go to a local church and talk to a pastor.

Here is why. This guy will only get worse. These men are obsessive and will go through any means to keep that obsession. This will only escalate and will not get better unless you take action now. The more time he spends obsessing over you, the more he invests in the relationship. The more he invests in the relationship, the more power hungry and radical he will become. End it now.

I know you are scared about the consequences and about being embarrassed. Be strong. You will survive that. You will not survive this guys obsession if you keep letting him control you. Take some quiet time. Ask God to give you the strength and to protect you from embarrassment and guide the situation, and then do what you need to do. You will be glad you did.