bad way to end a 4 year relationship?

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so my gf and I have been dating for four years. We have dated since my Junior/her sophomore year in high school. Well anyways I guess before we dated and I knew her, she was friends with this guy Colby from a town over. She told me that they used to hang out with groups of people and text often and she even had "a 2 day" crush on him way back when. Well anyways she hasn't talked to him since then but over this past Christmas break he snapchatted her. At first I encouraged her to communicate with him because she hadn't talked to him in 5 years and he is in the military. Well what I thought would be just a couple days of a snapchat here and there has turned into a lot of snapchatting. After I saw how much they had talked I became uncomfortable with the situation. I told her that I'd like her to cool it. I also told her that I don't think she needs to be sending some guy I've never met pictures of herself. I figure he can look on facebook like anyone else. We have argued a lot over this and I don't know what to do. She says that she can talk to whoever she wants and be friends with whoever she wants (when shes mad) yada yada but I am not comfortable with the situation. I think if he was really her friend that he would have stayed in touch and not gone 5 years without communication when people are so accessible with social media. She doesn't talk to other guys like this and he just came out of nowhere and they haven't gone a week with out speaking since. How do I deal with the situation? I deleted my snapchat cause I don't like seeing how much she is talking to this guy and its bringing me down. She hasn't ever been so defensive for some guy which makes me think she still has feelings for him but she swears up and down that she doesn't. I'm at a loss and I don't know what to do. She would not be cool if it was reverse roles. should i end it?

[Wrong Answer]

The thing is, you initially gave her permission, so you cannot now take that away. You are stuck there.

The guy, Colby is in the military and most likely is having a very difficult time of it. With Obama in the White House and his complete disrespect to not just young people, but all the military branches in general, I sure would not wan to be anyone in the military. Your girlfriend is most likely helping him with his depressed state. Good for her.

That being said, why do you not do the same thing? Same Standard Rule means you get to talk to your old girlfriends as well. Perhaps talk to all your old girlfriends. This is the time to catch up with them. See what is going on. What have they been doing with themselves? Who are they dating now and why? You are really going to gain so much knowledge by learing from and now being friends with your past romantic partners. Knowledge is power!

I would not end things. You both are actually showing maturity. Growing pains. After all, you want her to be the absolute best and being herself as she can be. I bet she wants the same for you as well. This way, after you two get married, you both know you can count on each other.

Now that I answered your question, please go back in to Yahoo Answers and help out others by answering at least as many questions as you have asked. 37 questions asked, but only 15 answers given. You will probably find by helping others, you will actually help yourself a lot more.

Good luck.