Girls: Would you ever accept a phone call for a date after turning down a text (Can't ask in person)?

[Mike]

I will give full points to anyone that can read all of this and answer!! Thank you!!

So let me explain the situation...I know a girl from a college class that I was in last semester and is now over. We talked a handful of times but I never got the chance to ask her out in person. I know it sounds lame but I was extremely busy with tons of things going on in my life during that time and it didn't enter my mind to ask her out until like the last week when it was too late. I'm mad at myself too because she was clearly interested in me and even invited me to a study group she was in once but I had to turn it down because I really had something else at the same time that I couldn't miss.

Anyway, now that the semester is over we are in a weird situation because she doesn't attend classes anymore but she still lives in the same town...so in other words I could still ask her out but I will never run into her on campus so I can't ask her in person. So I actually asked for her number on facebook and explained that I had so much going on I never had a chance to get to know her so I wanted to ask for her number to set up lunch sometime and she said "sounds good!" and gave me her number. So I thought everything was great and I texted her a few times just about things going on in her life and she always responded back quickly and then I finally decided to text her for lunch (since I couldn't see her in person I figured texting might be less awkward than calling) and she turned me down (she didn't say no but she kind of politely said she was too busy).

So now looking back I feel kind of dumb since all I did was facebook and text her like a middle school kid and also lunch might have been too strong. I'm thinking I will wait a week or two when she might be less busy and try calling her and maybe just ask her for coffee. Do you think I should do this or should I just give up?

[nutty1nutty1]

Hmm you're in a tough situation no wonder you're confused.

She's clearly interested in you as she offered her number knowing full well you wanted to get to know her and take her to lunch. You didn't say how much time had past between you getting her number and asking her out?

Maybe you moved to quickly.

My suggestion would be to back off now for a bit. Don't contact her by text and see if she gets in touch with you. And really I mean it don't send one message to her. Just wait it out. It may take her a few days but I reckon she'll get in touch.

Once she texts you keep in touch over the course of a few days get a conversation going and then maybe ask her if she'd like to go see a film. That way it's friendly outing where there isn't a lot of conversation needed (remember you don't really know each yet). So a low pressure situation. And discussing the film after is the perfect conversation. You can always ask her if she wants to grab something to eat after if you get on well.

Lunch is a big ask of someone you don't know as she might be worried you'll have nothing to talk about.

Good luck!