My boyfriend stopped all contact with me and started dating his step cousin.?

[Krissy]

I'm going to try and summarize this long story.

I started dating my current bf about a year and a half ago. In the beginning of the relationship he was a BIG flirt, he flirted with girls on the internet. I had to tell him a few times that this wasn't okay. I forgave him each time. Then one day I was browsing his Reddit page and saw he had a posting asking for advice, he wanted to know if he should pursue a relationship with his STEP COUSIN! I couldn't believe what I was reading,,, Right then and there I told him I saw the posting and it was over. A few months went by and stupid me got back with him. He claimed it was a mistake, he didn't know what he was thinking.. blah blah blah. A few months later I went on a cruise for 9 days, I had no contact with my bf, when I came back from vacation and had my phone once again, messages came through from my bf saying he thought he may be gay and kissed a guy, he said he was confused and couldn't talk to me about it. I didn't try to contact him of anything,,, I jumped into a new relationship about a month later (tried to forget about him) this was a bad mistake because 2.5 months into my new relationship I started missing my ex, I realized I never gave myself time to heal, I jumped into a new relationship with a guy who wasn't even my type., I ended up sending my ex a friend request on facebook, but deleting it a few seconds later. My ex got the friend request notification before i deleted it. We started texting, I ended things with my new bf and began talking to my ex again. He lied about the whole kissing a guy thing and being gay, he actually went out with his step cousin.. I kind of just forgot about the whole thing, we never really discussed what happened until lately.. (3 months back together) I feel stupid, I don't understand why I keep running back to him. I feel a connection with him that I don't feel with anyone else. He claims he will never betray me again. But I'm not sure If I believe him, I don't fully trust him. Do i need to once and for all move on? I desperately need advice. Thank you.

[Inner Universe]

Hey. I understand what you feel. You can't leave him because he means the world to you and you are afraid you won't find someone like him if you were to leave him. Well there's good news because I'm here to tell you that it ain't true. I dated a girl for 3 years and kept on going back to her even though she made me unhappy. I thought things would change and I'd feel different but I didn't. I met another girl and because I had acknowledged the fact that my ex and I were over I was able to move on and fall in love with my current gf. My point is that you should never be afraid to experience change. If you need time to heal then by all means take your time. And once you have healed go out and enjoy life. Life is too short to be worrying about boys who lie.
Never lower your standards.

[Randall]

My opinion: Any guy who says he's "confused" about whether he's gay either IS gay or is "bi, but likes guys more than girls."

Have fun with that.

Oh, and any guy who's telling you both "I kissed a boy" and "I'm sorta-seeing my cousin" is JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. If he were into you, he wouldn't tell you any of that.