I need to get new/more friends. How do I approach it?

[jumbocactuar]

Alright. So I'm a 26 year old male and I've been going through 15 months of the most severe depression in my life after being dumped by who I thought was my future wife. I've been through half a year of therapy and have come to realize that I am REALLY lonely and secluded. I sit on a computer practically all day, both at work and at home, and the time I don't, I usually bring my laptop to sit at a coffeehouse alone, but having strangers around me makes me feel slightly less lonely.

I have no REAL friends. Perhaps 2-3 good ones, but no one that even once bothered to come over or even ask me out when my depression was hitting hardest. I don't really understand why, because I am friendly, quite good looking and VERY empathetic. I can openly talk about feelings, I am not afraid to cry and I never make people feel bad when they confess something they'd rather not. I don't think I am bad friend material and I don't have problems with girls, but I really don't know how to make friends anymore.

Being 26 years old and done with school, I don't really know WHERE to meet new people. I just want to start somewhere, meet some good people, meet their friends and on and on. I just need to get started and I have no clue where.

I am gonna beat the crap out of this situation and I really hope you can help me!

[Gogol1387]

Craigslist is a good place to find just about anyone. Just be honest that you're looking for a friend.

I know what you're going through, but trust me sometimes friends can drag you down just as easily as you can drag yourself down--so keep that in mind.

And remember, we only see two sides of a person: What we want to see and what they want to show us.

[Clark]

You can always try Facebook and say who wants to hangout? Even at a coffee shop there are plenty of women just sitting around waiting for you to talk to them. Just say hi to one and be their friend first and see where it goes from there. Try online dating or websites that have you meet new friends if you want guy friends again like Facebook or Craigslist. I think you got my point man. Hope this helps.