What do I wear to a wedding in New Bedford, MA?

[Jen]

Please no judgmental comments... I was invited to my brother-in-laws wedding via Facebook events. At a hall in the city valentine's night. Evening wedding says more formal? No paper invite says casual? Suggestions?

[Fortunatus]

Nothing go naked

[justagrandma]

Call and ask, you do know your brother in law, so its not out of bounds.
You're right its very confusing and etiquette hasn't caught up with this kind of not really one thing or the other quasi-invitation.
I'm not on facebook, and so I'd have missed the invite.
As it stands with the very short notice, I'd probably not go. I'd send a card, snail mail.

[Messykatt]

Evening doesn't necessarily mean more formal,especially when it's held at a courthouse and even more especially when the invites are sent out over FB.

Obviously, your choices are to wear what you want or else ask them. But it's dodgy etiquette to tell someone what to wear in a courtroom. It's not a private venue and technically people can wear what they want, as long as it's not so casual it violates the court's dress code.

[Jabbar]

a bullet proof vest under like a nice tuxedo or something, trust me man that's not a good location esepcially if people are drunk.

[Amy]

I would go by the type of hall the occassion is being held in. If it's a typical rental wedding/banquet hall, I'd go with a standard evening out dress. You can never go wrong with a little black dress:

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[BeatriceBatten]

Wear something you'd wear to work at an office, or to a Sunday church service.

http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/ivy-blu-ruch...n=category

Something like this (a solid-colored dress that hits your knees or very slightly above), with a cardigan sweater: http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product...VariantID=

A wrap dress with heels or boots: http://oldnavy.gap.com/browse/product.do...=959105042

A black knee-length skirt, or black/gray dress pants, with a sweater set. Plus heels or nice flats/loafers that you'd wear to an office.

I would avoid jeans, too-shirt skirts, or very fancy ballroom attire. Stick to middle-of-the-road ... again, pretend you're going to work in an office or you're going to a nice church service.

You can always dress up a middle-of-the-road outfit with some nice jewelry and something in your hair. If you turn out to be too overdressed, then take off the jewelry/hair ornament and put it in your purse.

When in doubt, ask your brother-in-law what you should wear. If you know what the bride is wearing, try to go a step below her (so if she's in a cocktail dress, then you could wear a casual dress or a skirt and sweater set).

I don't get why you're anticipating "judgmental comments." It's a question about attire, ffs.

[Blunt]

You can't go wrong with a little black dress. Unless it is an outdoor bbq, it would be safe to assume that it would be a dressy occasion. Best wishes