Are there double standards during sex?

[MrPhotographer]

Another user kinda went off on another user about double standards, which were their own business buuuuuttt, it got me wondering. Her quote:

Women are more shamed for sleeping around and men are praised for it, encouraged, actually. If female gets around she is a sl*t, if a male does it he is a hero!


Where is it that I become a hero if I sleep around with more women? Ive never heard of any of my friend congradulating me for sleeping around with more females. If anything it messes up my chances to date a serious females. I would argue a lot more than it would for a female to sleep around and it messes up her chances to find a "suitable man (sorry i had to steal that from an older debate, i thought it was awesome)".

My friends if they decide to be sluttty they can find a decent guy to date, they might not date that decent guy but they are still decent guys coming up to slutty women wanting to date them. Not a lot of decent women are going to want me if they figure im a slutty guy who sleeps around with nasty girls.

So I would ask where is this praise at? Matter I found its better to try to lie about your numbers other than brag about how many girls you slept with.
da cow who hasn't had sex? how is having sex bragging. Most people at my age have had sex. Didn't think that was bragging. You must be younger than 20. Yes at 20 years old i did not have sex.
My friends don't sit around and talk about women. we are in our 30's i repeat 30's. It will be no benefit for me to brag about women i slept
A that not fully my business to disclose, thats a breech of trust.
B i myself wouldn't want to look like a slutty guy myself
C i would deny it, if a person chose not to have a relationship i definitely wouldn't gain anything by admitting i had sex with them
D. Unless i was going to start a relationship with somebody then i might tell, just to be honest. but just a bunch of friends (and most of my friends are female) about my sex life, no there is nothing that is beneficial to me telling them. It wouldn't come off like bragging it would just come off like im disgusting.
E. So Ive never unless i was talking to some teenagers seen anybody who made it cool to have sex with a lot of women.

[Da Cow]

So what you had sex, so what so does a lot of other people.
Your point, to brag about it about how many?
Just begin with not even bragging in the first place.

[935]

A man called Murray in England is regarded as an absolute Legend by many for managing to have sexual intercourse with over 500 women.

There are plenty of women that find men with experience appealing, but the same cannot be said for many men - often wanting women with very few past sexual partners. I've been shamed for having sexual intercourse with one man...

Men here congratulate and express jealousy of men that sleep with multiple women. Younger men look up to them. The female equivalent would be seen as nothing more than useless trash, and the same with women that have half the amount.

I'm the only woman I know that prefers inexperienced men, but this is because I want someone like minded who views sex as something special and meaningful.

Honestly, I prefer to be honest about my numbers. I dislike lying to people.

[722]

ooooh an original theme


men are rarely called $luts as an insult


women are called $Luts all the time




skanky is skanky - but guys are called on it less....see what i did there

[519]

Hmm, it seems like you're talking about prudish women, of course they wouldn't want a man who has slept around a lot, but for highly sexed women it's a sign that you know what you're doing and can give them what they want.

For low sexed men or "beta males" they're mainly just happy that a woman wants them and don't care that they're dating a slut, for the highly sexed woman this is trading down, they're choosing the beta male for the steady provision they offer, (dating them for all the extra perks but getting less sexual gratification)

For the experienced male virginal/low experience women can be seen as a conquest (difficult to get), but they offer a big reward because they're easier to impress with good sex, whereas highly sexed women have all been there and done that and will be less easy to impress in the bedroom.

and that's my analysis of the "double standard"

[marcus]

...Mr Photographer, what a barrel of high-minded, elevated, politically correct male friends you must have, I salute you all

Every group of men - not even friends, even just sports teams, work colleagues, guys at uni - I've ever been part of that regularly meet up have at least _a_ discussion about women, who's got the gift of the gab, and who's been able to talk their way into xyz many ladies'... boudoirs!

I agree with you that 'hero' is an exaggeration, but you can't deny that there's a certain... status as a ladies man that other men admire.

[DOC]

Well, ya see, it's like this, Ivanho: adults don't go round bragging about how many women they've porked...and whining when nobody cares.

[scott G]

Situation: somebody outside of your circle of sex partners has an opinion on your sex life and history. And you have not broken the three golden rules of no-no sex:

1) All willing partners must be consensual.
2) All willing partners must be mentally mature and competent to give said consent.
3) No unwanted pregnancies, diseases, injury, or death as a result.

Solution: Tell said opinionated individual "my sex life is none of your damn business."

[367]

Good grief. I 'm supposed to believe that an old man who has had plenty of sex doesn't know that there are double standards... Yeah right.

@Ath: If grown ups were more sensible about sex then they'd stop pornography altogether, but then that could interfere with their sensible behaviour to be able to purchase, hire or download it off the internet. Double-standards again. Ban your kids from watching porn but not your adult selves. Very sensible, indeed. Not.

[Ath]

I think it's largely a teenage thing.

Most grown ups tend to be more sensible about sex but some never outgrow it. There are guys who have facebook pages dedicated to showing all the women they've had sex with. They are not young guys, and there followers are not teenagers. Those same people, the guys and their followers, refer to the women they have sex with as sl*ts. It's out there even if it isn't in your group of friends, or mine.