I'm being bullied and accused of things I didn't even do?

[lisa]

This is kinda long but I hope someone reads it all. :\ I moved from NYC to Dallas a year ago, and that was the time I entered high school as well. I was really nervous at first but I got along with almost everybody quickly. A couple months after freshmen year started, I began hanging out with the ''wrong'' people, but at that time I found them very intriguing and fun to be around with. A couple people joked around and started to call me a ''drug addict'' and of course when other people heard thought they were serious. So my reputation went from that new kid to the drug addict.

A lot of people have told me that I got more friends then they will ever have in their life, (legit words), and for me I just socialize with a lot of people. I also got called dumb for being so friendly because now it got me into a lot of mess.

As the months passed by, I met new people and hung around other groups. Also, when i entered high school, this was when guys started to actually notice me. So all of freshman year, I've had many so called 'things' here in Dallas, with guys. Like we never got ''official''. Because of that many people started to call me a hoe and a sl*t. I don't see a problem with how a single girl can go talk to another single guy, it's not like I'm homewrecking a relationship. Girls started to talk about me even more as I got more attention from boys. I don't dress provocatively, nor do I act like it. For the whole freshmen year, it didn't really bother me about people talking mess, I just ignored it.

During the summer I got into beef with this one girl from another school and LITERALLY ALL THE ASIANS from my school got on her side and then started to beef with me also, when they had NOTHING to do with it. Instead of being mature and talking about it privately with me, they decided to bring it upon to Twitter to share to everyone the news. It got so bad I had to delete my Twitter. From that time on, I felt like I lost most of my friends and felt like the weakest girl EVER. So many people started to talk mess about me on Twitter. The only people who stayed by my side was my two closest friends now.

As for sophomore year now, people think its funny that even though I'm Asian I don't associate with any of the Asians from my school. The Asians are always trying to start something with me, always bringing me into things. They can sure talk a lot online, but in life they won't confront me. Most of them mug me, and I just smile because I don't know what else to do lol. When I talk to new people, they actually ask me if I slept with this boy or this boy because that's what they heard. About 5 guys claimed to have slept with me, and I don't know 3 of them! And none of it is true at all!

One day, while I was rehearsing for a play, some girl just told me that A LOT of people hate me, and she brought up a friend who I thought was a good one who supposedly talks mess about me often. That was the breaking point for me, and I broke down there. I feel really dumb where I can't tell who my good friends are and who's not. Guys who talk to me now only want to talk and hang out so they can get something back in return which I'm not that type of person to do that. Girls are so judgmental at first that it's so difficult for me to even approach them without them mugging me.

I don't think I've done anything wrong. I went from being the innocent new kid, to the big hoe who sleeps with every guy and parties all day, when I rarely even go out. THIS GIRL EVEN TRIED TO FIGHT ME BECAUSE I WAS LOOKING IN HER DIRECTION. Sometimes I hate myself so much and I feel like I am worthless. Everything I do is wrong. I want to move schools and just stop communicating with everyone. I don't feel good in person or in life. I keep getting hurt from people I trust and people I don't even know of.

I have so many problems at home already, and then now at school. Sometimes I get bad thoughts and I don't know what to do now. Out of nowhere I would think about all the bullying and get so butt hurt and start crying. I tried to ignore it before but now I just give up. LIFE SUCKS omg. There are times when I just wanna move back to New York and live the drama free life I've always had.

Thank you for taking your time to read this whoever did. I appreciate it.. x

[Jessica]

Im also a sophomore in high school but I haven't been the new kid in a while. The reason these girls dont like you is because girls are vicious when jealous... I mean they're always vicious, but you have those close friends because they like how you make them jealous of you. As for the guys, at this age, all they care about is sex and impressing people. They hang out because they're hoping the rumors are true and the ones claiming you slept with them are the ones that are trying to impress their friends. It sounds like you found out who your true friends are and I highly suggest you let your school counselor know what's going on... every detail. Let your parents know. Oh, and dont worry because my friend was being bullied, and when he got his parents involved, the guy bullying would say, "aww look he got his mommy!" But i tell you what, that kid hasnt said another word to my friend since. I hope this helped. If you need anything else, dont hesitate! I'd be glad to help you some more.
Take care!

[Sam Ross]

i am asian as well and i can ensure you if i ever went to your school i would never try "to start something with you". But then again i don't live in the heart of Texas . (i live up where it is really frosty...P.s not saying Texans are bad and all but yeah you know the stereotypes and stuff)

-writing out your feelings is a great way to express your feelings (yes i read it all)
-very interesting how you put cap logs on things you wanted to put emphasis on.
-i suggest you to get help from a counselor and not just Y! Answers (no i am not a professional)

This is the main points i noticed
-Gossip at its finest
-you feel everyone is against you and out there to get you
-people make you feel like trash (calling you a sluut and claiming to sleep with ya)
-you don't want called the drug addict
-cyber bullying
-mob mentality (people that don't know you join in 0.o)
-no adults, parents, or teachers in the picture
-You don't want to be judged
-You think life sucks
-You want to have a break from all the "bs" and drama

Now what you need to do is figure out solutions to these problems. Let's try looking at the positives of your situation first .

- you socialize with a lot of people (this is great!)
-You moved on from the druggies who could have a bad influence on you (no i have nothing against druggies, my childhood friend started to do drugs and went to jail for stabbing someone 0.o
-You have tried to ignore their insults etc. instead of lashing out and attacking them (this is good because you might get into trouble or get hurt)
-You deleted your twitter so you didn't need to see all the "bs" that they sent you (it could have gotten worse)
-you realize things are getting out of hand and reached out for help

Now lets look for potential solutions.

Solve the name-calling/bullying: I realize you have loads of problems at home, so your parents might not be able to help you but.. your teachers can help. They may inform the principal to step in. Who knows? they might inform the bullies' parents and come up with a solution. Better than nothing right?

Cyber-bullying- Ignore the messages and stuff, if they see you react to it, they will continue to spam you with crap. The fact you take the time to read the crap is what turns them on. (so yeah ignore them)

Mob Mentality- This stops if one bystander steps in, and says enough is enough. (perhaps have one of your close friends to step up and defend you)

Gossip- You know this is toxic, but it can get better if you refuse to let these rumors affect you. (so what if they talk behind your back, they are tiny cowards who can't talk in front of you so they aren't worth your time.)

Being Judged-Can't solve this much, we get judged everyday. However we can influence if we can get judged well or ill. Most of the times, if i don't know a person, i will not give a rats' @ss what they think about me. (honestly they are missing out on such a great person you are by prejudging you as a sluut or whatever stuff they come up with)

Life sucking and you feel worthless- well you have two options
1.jump off a cliff(no this is not a serious option silly! I would be very unhappy if you did something like this, because of course the world is a better place witb you here)
2.appreciate the life you have and do your best to make it better (there are always gonna be people worse off than you, so you have to make do with the life you have)

3. You clearly need a confidence boost so here i will give you a compliment:
-you are very smart because you wont consider my option 1 as a choice

See there now im done. See what i did here? I wrote to let (pissed off) feelings out. Awesome right? (my answer is longer than what you wrote