Guy friend issues, feeling really down?

[Stephanie]

Ever since I met this guy at my school, I'm starting to feel like I'm worthless and that there is something wrong with me. I met this guy in my school in the fall, and at first he seemed to be so nosy about my life, like where I'm going, why I'm all dressed up for one day, asked me if I had a boyfriend, and to hangout with him sometimes. He acted really nice to me and would contact me sometimes as if he was into me, until he started calling me friend lol. So I took that as ok he just likes me as a friend if he uses that word so often, so I started treating him like a friend and we'd still contact sometimes and talk for hours. But now I have no idea what he's doing these days as he hardly contacts me now and his interest seems to be to other females where he ignores my comments on facebook, and he takes hours to reply to my texts on the phone.

I feel like now I don't have a friend (I have a hard time making new friends), and I'm starting to feel neglected from the friendship. I'm trying to move on now since it's obvious that I'm out the picture (he adds females with really big breasts and longer hair than mine on facebook). I've never felt this low in my life before where I compare my own looks to other females. I've always been shy but not to the point that my self esteem feels so shattered by telling myself how can I compete with that. It's also sad because I'm feeling like this while I'm in college, not highschool.

I don't know how to act around this guy anymore, and I will see him in person soon.

I feel like I have more than one problem within me, I keep comparing my looks with other females, my personality with other people who can make friends easily while I struggle, and people who keep flaking on me when it comes to hangouts. Also being ignored on facebook (by people who call me their friends), which I used not care about.

[Jon]

I really think its a generation thing within girls ( to compare and feel bad about once self). It really seem like a lot of girls are starting to feel this way and are depressed about it. The thing is, you are you and you should be happy for that. What you think you should look like is impossible, model and magazines are all fake. I use photoshop in all my photography and I can make someone loose 40 pounds in minutes, and im telling you, you are perfect just the way you are, there will never be another Stephanie, ever.

Alright so now on the subject on hand, what I think was going on was he wanted friends with benefits, he wanted you for sex. If he said friend, he must of not have wanted a relationship, but more of something else. I mean , right when you start treating you like a friend he just gets up and leaves. Sounds to me like he found out you weren't giving any out and said whatever. If im wrong there still isn't any reason to just avoid you that a jerk thing to do.

Did you like him? it sounds like you did and its hard to put him in the past. But you have to understand that, he's not the right one, and theres guys out there that wont mess with your mind like that and make you feel good inside. You seem like a sweet girl and you don't need to go through all this sadness and mind games, especially over a guy like that.

I know its really hard, and its going to be ok. If you ever need anyone to talk to my email is (jon_man23@yahoo.com)