Help ): my bf broke up with me?

[Christina]

So my boyfriend broke up with me on Wednesday cause last Thursday we argued then on Friday he told me he wanted a break until monday. So I said okay then on Saturday night he texted me after a whole day and said it was too hard because he missed me. So we texted and he asked me to go to his house on sunday to talk. So I did then he was like " before you hear it from your brother, I texted my coworker and we were suppose to go to the movies as friends " then I got mad and I asked my brother cause he works with Him and I asked him who the girl was and my brother said not to worry because she was old and ugly , she's 21. Then I told my bf " my brother said not to worry because she's ugly" and Joseph said " she's not ugly , she's cute" I was so miad. So he basically flirted with her and told her she was pretty. Then I saw him wednesdayy and I told him to tell me what he wanted. Then he said his job and a gf was too much and then he said " me and evannie(the girl) are just friends , she's not looking to date but if she was I would date her" then he said he liked her because she looks interesting and it's something new. And I told him why he couldn't tell me this before. He also said", I do have lunch with her and I bought her breakfast at McDonald's and I left her a note saying "cold food from a warm heart" I just, she caught my eye I'm sorry" he's doing cute things for her. So he tells me he doesn't have time for a gf because he's lost and confused and stressed. Then says he's willing to date this girl. It just broke me:/ we were together for almost 10 months, I love him , he took my virginity, he's my first for a lot. I'm 17 he's 18. We haven't talked since Wednesday, I deleted his number so I'm not tempted but I still have him on twitter and fb and he posts stuff to make me mad. I don't cry everyday but I do miss him when I'm not around friends. He realized that I'm not begging for him this time. I know he's gonna come back because I was faithful and that girl Isn't interested. But I'm scared ill take him bak :/ I don't wanna be dumb like that. Hellp!): what do I do to not miss him? We hung out almost everyday of the weekend and now I don't have anybody

[Samuel]

First of all, I do apologise for only being to find the time to reply you now even though I saw your question a couple of days back. I noticed that you really wanted some answers cause you created this Yahoo account just to share your problem.

You're not wrong to be angry or jealous when he told you what he did for this Evannie. The way he treated you just isn't right. Although he has broken up with you, I don't think that it's fair for him to tell you the nice things that he does for Evannie, how he feels towards her or any other girl for that matter. He should be well aware of the strong feelings that you still have for him and be more sensitive and considerate.

I don't think that its a legit reasoning when he said that he cannot be in a relationship because of his work when he clearly shows interest in Evannie and would be willing to date her if the opportunity presents itself. It just contradicts with what he says. I can't help but think that he broke up with you because of this girl and that's very unfair for you, especially since you've given so much to him. Perhaps during your relationship with your boyfriend, you were the one who were always giving and sacrificing while he was just taking and enjoying?

He may not realised that his words could hurt you so much and probably scar you for a long time especially since he's your first, but I don't blame you for how you feel. It's not wrong or dumb for wanting him back, but if he doesn't see you the way you see and love him, I think it could only end up hurting you more. I know that you're a faithful girlfriend. Just make sure that you don't let him hurt you that much again if you ever get back together with him kays? I don't want to see you getting hurt. A girl can only take up so much pain to the heart.

It's not good for him to taunt you on Facebook and Twitter. I know you miss him a lot, but maybe you should try to stop yourself from checking him Twitter or Facebook to avoid aggravating your sadness or frustration. You said, "I do miss him when I'm not around friends". Maybe you can try spending more time with your friends as they can take your mind off him and also be comforting to you. Never say that you have nobody. There is always one out there for you. Even if you feel lonely at times, always remember there are others who really love and care about you; such as your parents, best friends and people who share the same hardships as you. I know the love of a boyfriend is just not the same as those, but those people can help you get through hard times if you confide in them, and let them be by your side as well. Just never ever blame or punish yourself for whatever the outcome of the relationship may be.

Seeing that you really still want to have him by your side, just continue to show him how you feel. You don't have to make obvious messages, but subtle ones like texting him each night before you/he goes to bed, or reminding him to perhaps take his medicine when he's sick, or be careful when he's on the road can go a long way. With a little love and a little care, I'm sure he'll be back in your arms if he's the one for you. I know people may ask you to give him up (no offence, I do think likewise because you do deserve a much better guy who can truly shower you with affection, care and attention), but no one has the right to judge whether you're right or wrong for fighting for what you believe in. Nevertheless, if you want him back, I still support and stand by your decision. Just persevere and be strong. I believe that a nice young lady such as yourself deserve a great guy. ^^