Talking to a shy guy that I've never talked to before?

[Madeline]

So there's this guy that's been in a couple of my classes over the past two years, and he's really really cute, but really really shy. I've never talked to him before, even though I know who he is, and I'm pretty sure he knows who I am.

The closest I've ever gotten to talking to him is when he and his friend came up to me at the same time, just so his friend could ask me a question about the chemistry homework...that's about the extent of what I know about him though.

Anyway, I'm super shy, and I typically get really nervous around guys, but it's only because most of the guys I know/end up liking are really outgoing and it makes them kind of intimidating to be near. Even though I know next to nothing about this guy, I want to get to know him just because he's so quiet and shy. I don't feel threatened or intimidated by talking to him, and I'd like to see if we can become friends, or possibly something more, just because it might be easier to talk to him than someone outgoing.

I only have one class with the guy right now, and it's world history. The class is mostly lectures, which makes it hard to have free time to talk or anything, but I was going to try and start sitting next to him when I can (my teacher has a "sit in whatever desk is open" policy when it comes to seats). What's the best way to approach him? Like I said before, we've both known of each other for a couple of years, but we've never had a conversation before. Should I smile at him everyday and look friendly and just wait for him to approach me? Should I try and pass him a note during class, or would that be cheesy, haha? He doesn't have a facebook page or twitter by way, so messaging him is out of the question. Any and all advice is appreciated!

[Sadie]

Shy guys are a tough one. I would look at him, wait for him to see you, and then smile for a second and look away. It's cute, a little flirty, and it shows him that you notice him. Pay attention, if possible, to his reaction. If you ever see him in the hall, look at him and try to make eye contact. If/when you do, smile or even give a little wave. After a few of these, it should warm up the energy with you two and maybe you could talk to him a little. I would wait until you've had a few conversations to sit next to him. Then it's not weird, just cute!
Good luck x 100!

[PikesPeak]

Thanks for answering my question!

Really the best answer is "Suck it up and go talk to him". I, too, was shy at your age. Time and experience has taught me that, once you get over your fear to talk to a crush, you realize it's really not THAT bad. You might crash or burn once or twice, but after a few attempts, you'll be much more comfortable approaching that cute guy and striking up a conversation.

All you have to say is "Hey what's up" or make a comment about how boring class was, anything silly to break the ice. Typically people are much more receptive than you expect, and respond positively. So in conclusion, just go talk to him, no matter how embarrassing it may be. It's good life experience!

[Merp]

Hey, well do u know his name and all that? If not, u could be like hey you're "so and sos" friend arent u? And introduce yourself. Thats the best thing i could think of, and just ask him what he thinks of the class/teacher/ homework and go from there. Good luck

[Who Knows]

Note passing!! Love this!! And you could say that you need help with you most recent assignment and could you get his number to help you? Or ask if he could help you with homework during lunch that way you have something to do if you have nothing to talk about. Usually though, if you're only just getting to know the guy, you'll have tonnes to talk about! Try to be friends first but don't get friendzoned!! Good Luck!x


and thanks for answering mine btw, definitely going to try your idea! I hate it too when people post links to their question haha but needed urgent help