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NewYorker101 · 03-20-2014, 09:29 PM

I have someone who is a "friend" of mine and let me tell you, this girl is PROUD to be white. In the 4 years that I've known her, I always knew she was slightly racist, but it's getting more and more worse and it's really starting to bug me. I first noticed it when she made an instagram, and practically every picture she posted had the hashtag #imwhite even if it was just a picture of ice cream or something. Then she started talking about how she is white more and more. If you ask her a question like "Can you dance?" she would reply "no, i'm white." It's really annoying, I just want to look at her and be like ANNNDDD? or SOOOOO?. I could deal with that though even though it's aggravating, but then she started saying EXTREMELY racist things about African Americans. I would type them here, but i'm sure if an African American is reading this, s/he would be really offended. I'm leaving for the whole summer this week so I want to have a last get together with all my friends so we went out last night and she kept talking about how she is white and saying racist things ALL NIGHT and as someone who is not fully white, I felt uncomfortable. I'm all for representing your ethnicity like "I'm proud to be Irish" or "I'm proud to be German" and such, but she never says anything like that. It's always just "I'm white" which to me, means that she's just happy to be a part of the caucasian race and that's really pathetic. I am NOT racist, I am completely against racism and at this point I want to strangle her. I never said anything before because it wasn't that bad and I would just feel annoyed and ignore her, but now she is getting on my last nerve. However, my friends and I planned a big summer trip this Aug. and it's all paid for and i'm excited to go, but she is one of the friends going. I feel like if I say something it's going to end up in a huge fight and I probably will not be able to go on the trip (because I know she still will) but I hate racists and I want to tell her to stop. I reached out to my boyfriend and he said to just ignore it because one day she's going to get her a** beat and put in her place. At the same time, I don't want to hear this BS anymore and i'm sick of it. What should I do?

JonRush · 03-20-2014, 09:40 PM

Find a new friend

Snoopdawg · 03-20-2014, 09:49 PM

She's not white. All Americans are mixed from dozens of origins. The Irish were celtic. The Germans have slav blood which is Russian which is semitic which is North-African which is half-caucasian-half black. The Southern-Europeans are mixed Moors, which are Middle Eastern. And so on. Your friend is not "pure" white if she's American.

Yvonne S · 03-20-2014, 09:51 PM

It seems like you don't really fancy her as a friend because you don't agree with her actions/attitude. She probably haven't realized this racist part of herself. If so, you can try to tell her how you feel as a friend. But nothing that'd offend her. Put it across nicely to her. She might listen. If she already knows she's racist and doesn't wanna do anything about it, let her know your disappointment towards her attitude. If she's still not doing anything about it and it bothers you, just leave her alone already. She can continue being racist and get hated or slowly come to realise how golden your advice was. But if you still want her as a friend... Then I'm afraid you have to accept that part of her. Everyone have their flaws. I have flaws too. If someone can accept your flaws, you can accept other people's flaws too. Depending on whether it affects you by accepting or not ^^ Good luck with that!

FIGHT THE LIES · 03-20-2014, 10:07 PM

Have you EVER took a second and thought WHY its OK for blacks , asians, latinos, etc to be PROUD of their race but NOT for white people to be proud to be white !!?!??!

Maybe shes sick of DOUBLE STANDARDS

J.D · 03-20-2014, 10:12 PM

tell he that to stop cause some one might take it offensive and get her ass kicked.

Chow · 03-20-2014, 10:21 PM

if she treats you well, then there's nothing wrong with her expressing her opinions. people of other races also have their own prejudices. it's not like she's goin out to beat people up for the color of their skin.

goldenbrowngod · 03-20-2014, 10:29 PM

it's ok if she says things like I'm white I can't dance or even tagging everything on instagram I'm white. It's stupid but not hurting anyone.

When she starts saying racist things about other people you should just tell her that's not cool.