My boyfriend is staying at another girls house!?

[Lilly Matthew]

My boyfriend who I have been with for just over six months has gone to go see his girl friend at her university today which is over a hour away. I'm not happy. He use to fancy the pants of her and they were going to get together.

I stopped him going once before but this time nothing worked. He was suppose to travel up there with one of his ex's but her boyfriend didn't want her to go with him. So instead one of my old crushes is going with him, because his 'girlfriend' lives in the same dorm, him and my boyfriend are friends.

We have been arguing all week because I didn't want him to go, at first he said he wouldn't because I was so upset because it was bringing up bad memories of a break up I had around the same time a few years back. When he told the girl he wouldn't be going she kicked off and told her if he didn't go they would no longer be friends. Truth is they hardly ever speak or see each other. Then he told me he was going again. I felt so betrayed, all the guys I had been with before were cheats or just used me for sex but I finally thought I had meet someone lovely. I then asked him to go after christmas so I could get use to the idea, he then promised me he would go after christmas, guess what this girl started kicking off again and she began to write things about me on twitter and I stood up for myself and she was really rude. She then messaged me saying my boyfriend would be staying at her house.

I knew I couldn't stop him from going, he said he would hate me if I made him loose a friend. So I decided he could go but as long as he came home and wouldn't stay there. He said he will try not to. He messaged her saying he wouldn't stay but she never replied.

I've just text him asking what he is doing and he's just ignoring me, I know my old crush is going to persuade him to stay so he can sleep with his 'girlfriend' and this girl will also persuade him to stay. They are also planning to get drunk and have a party with other people in the dorm. My boyfriend is suppose to be driving home.

Please help I don't know what to do and I'm in pieces.

Just to make things clear the people are
1. My boyfriend
2. His girl mate
3. My old crush who is friends with my boyfriend
4. My old crush's 'girlfriend' who lives in the same dorm as my boyfriends friend.
My boyfriend is there right now, also he cheated on his ex with me. But he said he wouldn't do that to me and that he fell out of love with her ages ago but didn't know how to break up with her.

[Bazza]

It seems you are flogging a dead horse. Wish him well and send him on his way. If you have any self respect of course.

[mikey]

Your concerns seem legit, however you never mention that you have a concrete reason for not trusting him. If you have jealousy issues from the past that are going to make you feel this way when he is away from you, you may not be ready for a relationship.

[Zoe]

First, take a deep breath and calm down. Try to remind yourself how much he cares about you and that he wouldnt do anything to hurt you. If youre really concerned that something might happen, call him and explain to him why you're worried. This might sound a little harsh but f he ignores you and can't understand that you need a little reassurance, he doesn't deserve you at all. Good luck.

[Saphyira]

your bf is falling into a trap i get this weird feeling this girl is a man-eater! or a bf steal er! plz if u feel that bad move on dump him, better safe than sry, move on before u get a broken heart! it will hurt more later than now .... eh old crush is part of the past... um try being friends with him now, do wt ur bf is doing.. a taste of his own medicine but if u beileve its love wait for him to come back... keep ur heart open and live life like there is no tomorrow! my instinct: DUMP HIM! let the past be part of ur past!

[Taylor Herrell]

You got me fucked up. I woulda told her umm no my bf will not be going because you're not fucking him, bitch I am. And if he wanted to continue to go I would tell him to go be with her then and left it at that. Naw I'm not doin the whole friends thing...and why is he goin somewhere with your old crush?? Does he know that you used to like him?? Girrrllll lol y'all crazy. I woulda been like okay fuck it, you can go lol so I wouldn't get caught up myself girrrrllll y'all crazy. Lol idk girl this all just seems like a mess.

[Tim S]

I hope you mean your soon to be ex boyfriend He is cheating on you. Leopards don't change their spots. Dump him.