i don't know what to do or how to feel?

[Renee]

): sometimes I find myself in the bathroom shedding a few tears. I don't know what else to do when I catch him. I used to confront him about it but after a while of him denying it I gave up. I recently had our first kid @ 25 weeks preung and he's just a couple of years older. She has many health issues that take a toll on me as well as the hormones and body changes. ( He has been with me every time to see her @ the hospital ) I've always been small (ex. curves, size 1-2, flat belly, abs, etc.) Now since having her I'm up to size 5. Now I see him staring off at 'prettier' women, looking at women on TV, pictures on social media, etc. But I admit he looks away when he sees me looking at him. I really don't know what else to do but cry. What to do??
I would rather him be straight up with me and just tell me he's attracted or that he actually does look...

[BabeHart]

He's not blind, and the world is loaded with attractive women (and men)...what good does crying do you??? Of course he looks...you are being totally unrealistic if you expect him to never look at another woman with admiration or lust...If you don't like how you look, then change it...unless you are well under 5 ft tall, there's no way you had curves and wore a size 1 - 2...

You married the guy and had a kid with him...your body changed...if you want it back the way it was, then get busy eating right and working out...women do it all the time (plenty of them have better after-baby bodies than before they got pregnant)...

[coconut]

You aren't any fun to be around right now. You are scared for your baby. You don't even recognize your own body. If you don't feel sexy then he won't see sexy. Most men don't care if you are a size one or a five. It is how you act.

I know that you are under a lot of stress right now, and being intimate in any way is probably the furthest thing from your mind, but wipe your tears, shave your legs, and paste on a smile, Work on seeing the positive side. Celebrate each milestone that your child reaches. Kiss him. Hold his hand.

Don't mope and ask him if he finds you attractive. The asking makes you unattractive. Also don't ask him if he finds other women attractive. He does, and asking him puts him in an akward position.

You may also want to talk to a dr. to see if you have postpartum depression and need some medication. There is no shame in getting help as your hormones get back in line.