How to stop my boyfriend's ex from harassing me?

[kate19201]

My boyfriend's ex girlfriend keeps harassing me. She keeps messaging me in my email, facebook, and phone. I've tried to block her on all accounts,but she finds a way around that. It's like her mission to get me to not be with my boyfriend by trying to send me messages that he wants to be with her still, not me. That he sent her Christmas gifts over Christmas, not me. Trying to get me to break up with him.
He is defending me, but this is getting ridiculous. I have not responded to anything she has said to me. However, my silence is not enough. He has tried to get her to stop. Should I say something to her? I don't want him mad at me if I say something to her or look like I am being drama if I say something to her for her to stop.
Suggestions?
I have forwarded the messages to my boyfriend. He has tried to tell her to stop and leave me alone. He has warned her that he will report a harassment case to law enforcement if she keeps up with it. But he does keep talking to her on the side trying to be friends. Which I think is part of the problem.

[Zaire C.]

Tell her to get out of your business. And tell your bf to ignore her and block her too

[559]

Don't respond to HER, you would lose respect in front of your B.f

Just ask him how he is going to deal with her, explain it to him how it's affecting you. ask him if he loves you, let him show you loyalty

[hotwheels122287]

make your profile as private as you can. that way she cant message you. then, just delete anything else she sends you through email. youre feeding her fire by responding and having your BF in the middle. dont give her the attention and she will stop

[Common Sense]

You are right, he needs to ignore her completely, like you are.

I would copy all of the evidence and take it to the police, WITH your boyfriend by your side. They will most likely make a courtesy call for you by asking her to stop this nonsense or she will be charged with harassment or what have you.

You and your boyfriend have to be much like parents who stand united to discipline a child (his ex), by always following the same rules you two agree upon. In this case, ignoring her. You see, by him contacting her, she gets her way as she has manipulated him into getting what she wants: his attention. Even if it is negative attention, in her mind, getting ANY attention is better than no attention at all. Let your boyfriend read this so he understands he is making a huge mistake and is actually rewarding her with his attention for her bad behavior towards you.

So, she has no motive to leave you alone because her contact with you, causes him to contact her. You see?

STOP ALL CONTACT. Period. NONE.

Once she is not able to manipulate you both, she will not get a payoff of the attention she craves and she will eventually leave you both alone.

If your boyfriend does not cooperate with this solution, then he is also getting something out of this and therefore, he is not being authentic and needs to be dumped by you.

[Jan]

Time for a new boyfriend. If he knows you are being harassed and still continues to talk to her, she might be right in her assumptions that he still wants to be with her. He certainly is not helping the situation. Maybe he likes the drama of two women fighting over him.
Time to re-evaluate your relationship. If my boyfriend were still talking to his ex while she is harassing me, he would be seeing the other side of the door.

[Bob]

call the police today

[959]

Tell her "MYOB (mind your own business)"