Can we still salvage the friendship?

[Brainy]

I got to know this girl in end Oct 2013. From end nov till dec, we have been hanging out alone for 6 times on a date.

During the 3rd date, i confess to her that I have fallen in love with her.

however, she has a complicated past and is not interested in a relationship right now. she has been hurt before but we still hanged out in the 4th, 5th and 6th time.

During the 1st to 3rd date, there was lots of flirting and the attraction/connection was definitely real. And, it was the 4th and 5th date, she told me about some unpleasant past she had and i told her I do not mind as it's all past tense.

But she started distant from me n pushing me away after telling me so many of her things.

On the 6th date alone with her, she was moody. I do not know what I have done to annoy her and from then on, she started giving me silence treatment.

On 24th dec and 31st dec, we have a common group of friends' outings. she completely ignored me twice and I put down my men's pride, trying to talk to her. I don't blame her, though i felt humilated.

She told me she's a thorn and don't get too close to her.

so i guess we should give each other space for a week plus. so, a few days back, i watsapp her again. I screwed up the texting when i got a silence treatment again. I told her I really care for her. And, when i text her to ask her out, she didn't reply. Ok, my text did sound creepy and weird. My brain wasn't thinking on that nite. Don't ask me why and her impression of me has dropped. The silence treatment drove me crazy. But as a person, i am not creepy as we have both hanged out quite a few times.

Now, she has blocked me on whatsapp and weChat. And, for facebook, she has put me on restricted list, thus i cannot see her photo albums.

I have a feeling initially she pushes me away because she wasn't sure if I am really serious and probareally mind her past. She has an abortion before. Although i was shocked when she told me, i told her it's all in the past.

The thing is why don't she just block me entirely on facebook, if she wan to cut off communication completely. Does she want me to forget her? But she still can see my news feeds, even if I am on the restricted lists.

The thing is we still send each other lives on candy crush, even after the block since we still FB friends....

a few days ago, I messaged her in fb:

I won't send anymore text as it seems to have matters worse. Will not make contact for the next few monthly as i will be busy doing my own project (which she knows about it when I told her in dec). Then, I text I hope we still can be good friends. - she didn't reply me.

how? looks like we needs some months to cool down. do you still we still can salvage the friendship in the future?

All was going well but I screwed up from the day she started giving me cold shoulder.
yes, i screwed up the text on one night and tat's why she pissed off and blocked me on whatsapp.

it's been almost five days since she blocked me on whatsapp.

all i wanted was to find out what's wrong and hopefully, resolved. she just keep things in her mind and not said it and it leads to frustration.

i regretted...

i plan to have some cool off for the next few mths... then see how it goes if i see her again in real person.

but she should be aware that the silence treatment from her is emotionally upsetting me... we do have some sweet memories together when we hanged out and we have many too many things in common.

i hate how texting screws up... sigh.
i hv actually asked her out a few times be4 n got her out...

but this time round, this is really a screwed up. maybe some of my texts have hurted her...

[guy1]

Hi man.

i don't know nothing about women... but i have heard that they hate to feel harassed.For instance i don't ask women out because i don't know whether a woman could feel harassed if i do such thing. Now, you seem to be trying so hard to salvage your friendship with her.. but in the process she could feel harassed... also, i don't know why you meant with " Ok, my text did sound creepy and weird."

i wish you the best.

God bless you