I am concerned about my 22 year old daughter & social media. Should I speak with her.?

[BRi]

She moved away from home about a year ago to NYC, she is naturally popular has always been & makes friends in a snap, which is as good as it is bad. She's overly friendly. I have noticed recently by looking at her instagram & facebook that she puts up pictures of everything, her food, drinks, when she's at a nightclub, when she's at work. Everything. She even adds her location to the pictures. She recently ended an emotionally abusive relationship not that long ago, he spread terrible lies about her after the break-up & she went into a state of depression. He has a new girlfriend now & she thinks that she is better than this new girl because she has cooler pictures on her instagram & more followers. Maybe this is the way 22 year olds think in 2013. She seems to be finding herself & her voice, which I love & I am proud of her. But I feel as though she is using social media to shove it to her ex, she puts up pictures with guys, laughing, she's out every weekend. Her facebook is private, but her instagram is public & I am worried. She is in the entertainment business & is doing well, but I am worried about her & how she feels that she needs to prove something to the world but using social media. like look at me everyday I am doing something, everyday I am out, you should all be jealous. She has tons of followers on instagram & a lot of friends on facebook. Maybe I am over-reacting? Should I speak with my daughter or let this go? Am I thinking to much into this. She is 22, living on her own in NYC, she is successful, she never calls home for money or anything, she does not need to prove anything to anyone. The lies her EX spread about her & how he cheated on her was awful, but she is 22, this is not the end of the world, & uploading pictures of you at dinner is not going to make things better.
Also her EX tried to re-connect with her numerous of times

[RaNdOm]

Everyone today uploads pictures of dinner and things they did with friends. To me it also doesn't make sense, but it's a trend, and there's nothing wrong with it. I know lots of people who do this kind of stuff, but they're just having fun, so there's no problem.

[Maka Piapia]

You know you have to try. But I notice anybody between the ages of 15 and 49 seem to know everything about anything, and especially about the damned social media. I have tried to reason with family and friends for years about this, and so far nobody seems to get where I am coming from. It is simple: ONCE YOU PUT YOU INFORMATION OUT THERE, and it does not matter how small or meaningless, YOU CAN NOT KEEP IT PRIVATE OR BRING IT BACK. I cringe every time the news reveals that some big company or Federal information site has been compromised. I cringe to here that Apple, Yahoo!, and Google actually sell information (even though they swear they don't).

And I cringed, when Dr. Oz revealed how a woman eventually was found a raped, by simply "face-booking" and twittering innocent information to a stranger. Stuff like oh the mountains near my home are so beautiful, and My son plays for the Brewers in our little town.

I hate to say it, but the biggest headache in the coming years is going to be identity fraud. And other violent crimes.

[Anand]

In my opinion if it is bothering you, speak to her
If she is lashing out at the man who hurt her in her abusive relationship - talking it out will be more beneficial for her in terms of emotional stability and any relationships she may wish to pursue when she is ready.
Overall the risks with social media, in my opinion, is not harmful, but a form of coping with the severe hurt caused by the abusive man in this case - and she is flourishing in her career - so it sounds like she has risen above the negativity and is starting on a more positive outlook, so maybe to spur this frame of mind on - talking to her would be good - to clear the reasoning out in the open.

hope this helps