Can a freshmen go out with a senior?

[Mary]

Hello there! So, I'm a freshmen in high school and I'm fourteen right now. I'm going to turn fifteen in about a month and awhile ago. I met this senior at a volunteering event for school. And he was really really cool. He eventually added me on facebook and we started texting, talking on the phone a lot, making plans, and everything. He's seventeen and turns eighteen in July. He told me before that he would consider dating me and he seems to like me. And I really do like the guy. He's also a friend of my brother's, who is also a senior. And my brother said he was a really good guy. I really want to date him, but whenever I bring up the possibility of dating a boy older than me to my parents, they tell me that two years should be the max. But I don't know, I feel like if they met him, they'd really love him. And I'd reassure then I won't plan to go any further than maybe a kiss with him. But maybe they could be right? Some friends have been telling me that he's too old for me. And I'm not sure what to do any more. What do you guys think I should do? (-: Thanks for reading my question and thanks so much if you answer/answered!

[Amy Lynn]

He will soon be over 18 and you are still below 16. There is nothing illegal about dating in this situation. However, you could never become sexual or he could go to jail because of your age.

Your only issue here is convincing your parents that he is alright. If he is already a friend of your brother, then your brother may be able to help with this issue.

[Daisy]

14? No. 15? No. 18 yes. You are too young and besides, he would be in trouble to be anything but a casual friend. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up...there is plenty of time and dozens of future boyfriends, so take your time.

[petitemeal547]

Yes, and a senior can go out with a freshman.....just don't have sex!
This is A grandma that is talking here!

[Bill Gannon]

I'm old fashioned. And back in the early 1960s when I was your age, we didn't believe in dating that didn't lead to sex.

Admittedly, there are always some young and silly girls who think that dating can be limited to "maybe kissing" a boy. But that's not how boys see dating.

So you wind up having sex. Whether you planned to or not. And then you're blabbing about how great it was with one of your girlfriends. Which is what most young girls do when they first have sex. And then your Nosy Parker mom finds out about it when she's snooping through the messages on your cellphone.

And then there's hell to pay. And your parents get all Medieval about it and decide to call the police. Because we now have a hysterical "War On Sex" going on in our culture, and calling the police is what everyone is taught to do in these cases, whether it makes sense or not.

And then your boyfriend is in REAL trouble. Because not only is he guilty of "raping" you, according to the damn fool statute. But, in most states, he can't even use the "Romeo and Juliet" defense, because the minimum age of the so-called "victim" (i.e. you) in such cases is 15.

So he will AUTOMCATICALLY be sent to prison as a felon and legally tortured for the rest of his life as a Registered Sex Offender. All because you thought it would be fun and exciting to date an older guy. So, you see, that's not very fair to him at all.

[Aidan]

Sure you CAN. But from what I learned as a senior in highschool, its extremely looked down upon. People from your class will most-likely start calling you slut, whore, or other extremely mean and horrible things. If you chose to date this person, I would keep it under wraps until you are a junior. Juniors dating older people isnt really a big deal. But Underclassmen dating people two years or more is usually bad. I know its stupid and people are cruel, but that's just the way things are... :/

The main thing is, make sure this dude is SUUUUPER special and worth the pain and effort. And make sure he actually loves/cares about you and isn't just trying to screw-you and go.

Hope everything works out well!

[livelytoe419]

Am I the only one here that is bothered by the fact that this kid couldn't comprehend that this is the senior ( as in OLD people) category and NOT about high school seniors?

Kid, why don't you go into all categories and see if you can post this question somewhere in a category that has people closer to your own age.

I think they could relate better to your problem and give you good advice.

[sophieb]

texting and phoning gets out of hand these days and you didn't say exactly what your "plans and everything" were or were all about. Here's the problem: a kiss leads to sex and this guy would then be having sex with you a minor and that would put him in jail for many years and loss of his chosen profession to earn a good living and he would not be allowed to be around kids in the future (anyone's children) and you'd make life very tough for him. You are a child, he at 18 would be an adult, and sex means "statutory rape" says the law. Don't hurt this guy. Stay with kids your own age. Testosterone is too great in guys, they're tempted and their life goes away if they're with a kid. This guy "is" too old for you. What to do? walk away and find someone your own age.

[whimsy]

He will soon become a legal adult; you will still be way off of that. Although the age difference doesn't seem much to you; he has more to lose if emotions got carried away and there was sexual interaction.

Meet up with him again when you are around 17.