Do I sound like a bad friend?

[diggy]

ok, i have tons of friends that i'm close with and they're all friends together, except this one who's pretty socially stupid. like even when i'm out in public with her she gets afraid to talk to people, she's cool around me but even with my dad or mom she says she afraid of talking!! idk, she said something that she has social anxiety or some crap like that. so when i'm with my friends she'll be on the outside cuz she won't talk with us and it's annoying so i leave her! ik she may have a problem but why should i have to deal with it and stay around her all the day, i want to talk with my other friend too!! and also me and my other friends tease each other but in a fun way that we don't mean to be serious bout, i try having her join, as a complete joke i say, 'hey no boy is going to ever date you and you're going to die alone' and she looked like she was gonna cry and didn't talk to me a lot....i was kidding! lol! i wouldn't care if she said that to me, idk, i think she's insecure!! i do it with all my friends they don't give a ****!! also i won't be friends with her on facebook, it's embarrassing consider she likes all this stupid stuff and only has 30 friends! we don't hang outside of school and i don't email her or anything like that, she doesn't get social media. and yeah, if the thing about dieing alone is mean she has a ton of fictional and celebrity crushes, no real crushes, so i'm just saying if she keeps liking things like that!!

idk, do i sound bad?? she has no other friends than me....

[InstantKarma]

Yeah, you do sound bad.

[doorbitt]

You sir, are one of the biggest assholes i've ever met.
What the hell is wrong with you?
For a guy who has alot of friends id expect you to be CONSIDERATE.
Wow. How do you even HAVE friends?!

[Rosie]

I feel bad for her... who knows why she's like that..?
Listen, she needs help, and you're one of the people who can try. It may take a long time, but she'll get comfortable with you.
I used to say "If you have a problem, get away from it". Until I thought about this.
You can't just ditch her.
Imagine you were like her, what would you want your group of friends to do? Well whatever that is then you should do it.

Good luck >.<

[Emma]

You're one of the most rude people I've read about so far. Congrats...?
1. She has social anxiety. You could never understand how awkward and scared you feel. It's a disorder. Not something you can laugh off.
2. I get that you're trying to be funny, but not every one of your friends is the same. We all perceive and understand jokes differently. That's a horrible joke. Your other friends might laugh, but someone might not. Stop talking that way to her. I had a friend who was like that and she made me feel like the most worthless person ever because of her "jokes."
3. Let someone dream. You know how she has crushed on celebrities? Who doesn't? Ever heard the phrase, "Don't let small minds convince you that your dreams are too big."? YOU are the small mind trying to make her change her dreams for you.
4. She only has 30 Facebook friends? If you judge people by the amount of Facebook friends they have, then your very judgmental. What if someone had 5 friends but was the most amazing, fun person ever, and you never got to know them because you thought "Only 5 friends, what a loser." Give people a chance before judging them. You never know their story.
5. She has the problem, not you. Social anxiety is a serious deal. YOU have to put up with nothing. You don't have a problem in the world, so before you say you have to deal with her, remember that compared to her problems, yours are nothing.
6. If someone doesn't understand a joke and they are offended by what you say, apologize. Apologizing won't make you a lesser person. If you offend someone you should say sorry!
7. I have a friend like this in my "social circle" except they don't have social anxiety and she's actually a pretty cool person when you listen to her. She's my best friend now.
8. Don't assume you know everything about everyone. The only person you truly know is yourself.
9. Yes, you sound like a horrible friend. Apologize for being so mean to her. Not everyone can be perfect to you! Understand that everybody is different. Don't change people to be your slaves.

[Blah]

Yeah, you sound pretty awful. I have no idea why she even wanted to be your friend in the first place. You're a horrible "friend". She's shy and quiet, what's so bad about that? Not everyone feels the need to constantly socialize. She's probably as insecure as she is because of the horrible things you say, even if it's a joke to you. She's obviously a bit sensitive, so why do you feel the need to tease her, especially in front of other people? She's probably a really cool person and in a few years time you're going to regret the way you've treated her. You need to grow up. If anyone's socially stupid it's you.

[Annie]

I dont want to be mean... but you are being awful to this poor girl! i am sorry but its true. she seems very shy and sensitive, like me so i will give you some insight into the minds of shy people your friend said that she was scared to talk. this is probably because she doesn't have other friends, so she is scare of saying the wrong thing and losing the one friend that she has. Try to put yourself in her shoes. picture that You finally make a friend, but what if you upset that friends family with something that you say? that could be what she thinks. Or, she could be having trouble thinking of what to say. When i am with friends and family, i talk and talk and talk. But with new people, my mind goes blank!! so instead of leaving your friend to talk with others, suggest something that she should say to your friends, then maybe she will feel less at a lost for words and be more encouraged to talk. Try saying "you dont need to worry, just be yourself like you are around me!" it will make her feel better and you will be a better friend. Also, you may have been joking about her dying alone BUT she is sensitive a nd that comes across as MEAN!! so, apologize if you can or dont make comments like this again. Since she only has celeb crushes, why not say" you know so-and-so? I think you guys would be great together!!" that is a positive comment that will maybe make your friend feel more motivated to put herself out there and talk to the guy you said she would look good with. Also, you should hang out with her and email her!! you NOT doing these things could be the reason she is so shy: she may not feel like you guys are actually friends!! a good friend stays in touch!! like i said, i can be sort of shy, but i know that i am like a different person when people are nice and friendly. SO BE NICE!!! it will make a world of difference with you and your shy friend!!!!
so, to review....
put yourself in her situation and UNDERSTAND\
suggest things to say
apologize or no meanish jokes
email her, you dont have to necessarily follow her, but you could show her wat YOU post and suggest she try some new material_ suggest NICELY!!!
the key to having this girl break ou of her shell is to make her feel comfortable. So do so by baing a better friend. Hope i helped u i know its hard to understand us shy peeps lol
but really, u havent been very nice, but you CAN be!!! hav faith in your inner good friend!! this girl will beciome less shy everyday if u listen to my advice. You will be happier, and so will your friend.<3