With all the naked pictures you can find on the internet, why does my boyfriend feel the need to?

[Professional]

stir up conversations with new girls and girls he already knows and request sexy pictures of them?

Please answer the question above......but there is more to the issue, which i invite u to comment on.....
I am an attractive, mature, intelligent, generous person who is admired by myself and others. I'm not naive. I also would never disrespect my partner. I am very committed and dedicated when in a relationship and help my partner to fulfill their dreams. However, the last 2 serious relationships I have been in, I have at some point found the guys texting with females in inappropriate ways. Yes, I did find out because of skimming through text messages if i was in possession of their phone with their knowledge and skimming through messages if they leave their facebook page up.

So do all guys do this and it is just my fault because i invaded their privacy....or is there another issue at hand? Otherwise my current relationship is great and we plan to get married. We live together, are building a non-profit organization together, and have much potential for a wonderful future together. I also have a child that he takes in as his own. I just hate being disrespected because i would never do that to my man. And i know plenty of women that have cheating men when things look good to them.

Also, he said some conversations that were normal, but a little too much....like good morning and good night too often.......some convos with an ex that we had issues with in the past and he told me he wouldnt associate with her anymore........Last time tis happened about 6 months ago, there were PLENTY more inappropriate conversations.....we had a mature conversation about it and i felt he cared about my stance on it.....This time there were only a couple i saw.

I am 26 going on 27. He is 24 going on 25. Is this appropriate? Should i expect a guy not to do this?

[jdp12122000]

Most males from a young age are taught by older males that manhood is about a sum of 5 basic things: sports, food, tv, beer and sexuality. Most behaviors revolve around #5. Men and boys are visually wired and also hormonally unbalanced and well, naturally gravitate to things like....porn.
Even when they have loving partner willing to do certain things intimately, they are still prone to it. Biology makes this happen, along with upbringing and society expectations. As cruel as this sounds, it's likely true.

The main thing to remember is that if he adores YOU more than these gals he finds on the internet, texting, etc and he has NO plans for future face-to-face meetings with them, then you have basically nothing to worry about.
If you still find yourselves experiencing bedroom problems or problems with your relationship in general, go to couples counseling. If that doesn't work, try your local churches or houses of worship for programs or group therapy, or check the nonprofit groups for assistance. Talk to a relative, or friend. Talk to a rabbi or pastor. Talk to a professional psychologist. Talk to somebody!
If after all this you're still having difficulty, then it's time to split up with your mate.

[loudbrick245]

Porn on TV and on the computer is incredibly fascinating. Why? Because of the different angles and different perspective you get to see what you absolutely cannot see in real life. Some of the shots and their angles are impossible to duplicate when it's just you and your partner. And, of course, you want to see what will happen next, because each episode brings something interesting.

I am not defending him because I'm a man. I simply want you to see from our perspective.

I hear you. What about YOUR perspective?

Here you go:

You can try this strategy

Tell him the following:

You spend hours watching young, slender babes, with picture-perfect female equipment. They have sex with men, and they have sex with other women. You watch all this from different camera angles, in different settings, doing things to each other that normal people simply cannot and would not do. You watch all this and you salivate over those images. They get you excited. And you watch this for hours.

Do you realize that because of you watching all this smut, I get the feeling that you are not satisfied with me, that you want someone like those babes on the screen, not me. Your watching this doesn't make me very secure about myself, about my body, and about our relationship.

To better help you understand my perspective, consider this:

How would you feel if I spent hours watching young, muscular, male bodies, cleaned and scrubbed to perfection; with straight white teeth; with trimmed and manicured fingernails; and with their long, thick, and hard penises, that are always erect?

How would you feel if I watched those men, with picture-perfect "equipment", for hours?

How would you feel if I watched men having sex with other men?

It would be as exciting for me as it is for you watching women having sex with other women.

Would you feel secure with your body?

Would you feel secure with your sexual energy?

Would you feel secure with your sexual stamina?

Would you feel secure with your penis?

If I was watching naked men as you watch naked women, would you feel secure about yourself?


And since I am not watching naked men, AT THIS TIME, what makes you believe it's ok for you to watch naked women?

If you continue watching naked women, I'm going to start watching movies and go to clubs to watch naked men.

Do you think you are the only one who has vivid imagination?


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I had several women try these lines with their boyfriends/ husbands who liked porn. They got great results. It works like a cold shower. I hope it works for you too.