I have nothing to live for.?

[Joseph]

I am 16 ,17 almost. I am a guy. I am aloner , not a loner , meaning I am truly alone... I feel there is nothing to leave for. I was talking with a girl at Facebook earlier about how this was 13's last Sunday . I said I was glad 13 was over ... It was terrible , she knew I was often depressed . She insisted on knowing why... I bursted into tears . 13 was the worst year of my life . I have no friends to care bout me, at my bday nobody told me happy bday . My father thought it was the next day , my siblings didn't even remember. Nobody told me irl or Facebook . I never had any true friends only some douches that were abusing me, grabbing my moobs... I never get to fit in. I am different but is this the price?! Depression? Lack of social validation? Being alone for ever?! I never had a gf ... Nothing always alone . This is what I have to pay for disliking gossip ?! Not being a dick to people? Not answering back?
I never had a birthday party bc my house was too far. Always an outcast ! Is this what I have to pay for being smarter?! I have 164 iq. I have played the strong guy and the I don't care about people's opinions but enough, I can't stand it anymore I wanna leave this place once and for all. I am not the tiniest bit attractive I am like -9000 on scale 1-10...
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[roughedges]

I was just like you- except the time was 1966! My IQ was 165 I wore glasses and was overweight. Felt ugly too. here is some of what I learned in the last 60 years.

I was not ugly, and neither are you. Girls have a different standard they look for than men do. Women are turned on by sense of humor, quirkiness, confidence- these can all be developed.

I didn't have friends because I was trying too hard with the wrong people. I was too blind to see the people who looked up to me. They are there for you too- but you have to look.

We are introverts- that's doesn't mean we don't like people- just means we are capable of working alone with no problems. we have to put a little effort into speaking to people. Turns out I am really good at public speaking and leadership.

But you gotta put yourself out there- people will mock you- so what? People will poke fun - so what? Poke fun at yourself (verbal Jiu-jitsu) Take a stand and make something happen. they only thing worse than failing is never trying. Start to live up to your potential. Here is a clue- it takes work- I suspect things have come to you easy - now you need to work to develop some new skills.

RIght now you are afraid of being rejected- yeah I know- comes with the territory. Hard to ask a girl out and risk rejection. What I know now is they are just as afraid of never being asked. There are a lot of girls out there just as confused as you are.

Be open and approachable, you need to make an effort to make small talk and ask questions about other people. learn to tell a few jokes, have things to talk about.

Volunteer- for anything. You will find yourself working with a group of people with a common interest. Compliment people, don't be afraid to ask for help- NO bragging about how smart you are- let your actions talk for you.

take up a sport- any sport - put your self in groups with a common interest.

Last thing- being 16 is tough in this day and age- everyone gets depressed - you will grow out of it- the more you do for yourself- the faster that occurs. Don't wait until your 60 to get smart.

[Hannah]

I don't know you but I know someone out there is waiting for you! I know for a fact that your parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, and grandparents that care about you. You never know when something big will happen to change your life! Please don't do anything you will regret.
You have one life, and if you live it right once is enough!!

[deanne]

As you can see, the teen years are the absolute worst time of life. I am surprised any of us survive it. You are struggling with so much stress, pressures, changes... Your body and mind are trying to cope but ... its hard, dealing with unpredictable hormones and roller coaster emotions.

The brain is a very complicated and delicate thing. It can get messed up and be unable to produce sufficient serotonin. This is called a chemical imbalance which is easily treated, very common and nothing to be ashamed of.

It can cause depression, anxiety, panic, obsession, self harm/self hatred, suicidal thoughts, eating disorders, sleeping problems, aggression/rage, anger, phobias, fears, helplessness, hopelessness, hypochondria, ADHD, paranoia, OCD, headaches, lack of interest in things, lack of motivation/ focus and much more.

According to those who have gone to therapists, counseling and therapy dont help much. They are not even allowed to prescribe appropriate meds to help you get better.

Tell a dr. about your problems and ask him for anti-depressants. Zoloft/Sertraline is a good one; most people thrive on it and it has no side effects. It enables the brain to function property.

With the right antidepressants, you will be much better, happier, calmer, confident, relaxed and feel normal. What a difference it makes!! You need them, so stay ON them.

[Fred F]

Try doing some volunteer community work.

If you can take care of a dog, go to the local animal shelter and find a dog that you bond with.
Dogs make great companions. Whenever I get in a down mood, my dog is my best therapy.

As far as the girlfriend problem , you have to make a effort to get a girlfriend. One will not come pounding at your door. You have to get more aggressive.

[Dana Howell]

wow i looked at ur pic and u look good. truely no joke there. if i was single i date u and thats no joke be proud of urself some lucky girl will date u. im not sure why one isnt already
anyway never give up on life. ik things are rough but things can get better for u and they will u just never need to give up hope. ik u can be strong and be something in life. god only ask u try and if u do that u are successful in life.
there are people or at least someone who does love and care for u and u know u care and love someone or others as well. i have gone through alot in my life and so many others have ups and downs as well. u have to pick urself back up in life when things push u down. i promise u if u get the needed help such as consuling and on depression meds things will get better for u. ik u are strong and can do this, be u in life and be proud never quit.
i wish u the best and good luck

[Lobster]

Hey guy! U r so handsome! I am a 34 yrs female, so i have relationship experience mire than you, i really agree with this paragraph of the Best Answer : " Girls have a different standard they look for than men do. Women are turned on by sense of humor, quirkiness, confidence- these can all be developed"
Being confidence, having sense of humour and not being always too available for girls is the most important clue for men to attract us!