I need help on this matter. It is a bit long but any help will be great :)?

[Winner]

OK so we are both in our mid twenties and at uni. I became good friends with a female friend who is from a muslim country. Our common started to tell her that i had feelings for her. She did not really listen to it until recently. She as a bf back in her home country.

Now she has started to avoid me. If we meet as a group she will not talk to me really. She will give me a smile and say hi but that is all really. Earlier we would meet on a regular basis and go for meals and movies or just chill but not anymore.

So i had a chat with her on fb and she she finally admitted to it and gave me the reason as stated above. We had this chat at like 1am until 3am so it was important for her. Otherwise she would have just gone to bed. She said that she needs time away from me since she does not want to upset me or hurt my feelings. She has said that she does not know how to act since she does not want to lose a good friend. She over fb chat admitted that she does care for me and sees me as a close friend and will happily meet me as a group but not just alone until she is comfortable. And she continuously apologized for this problem

What shall i do?I mean i do not like her in that way at all. She is listening to people who have got it all wrong. And now when i do meet her in a group i feel uncomfortable as she does not really want to talk to me.

I will give her space but what else shall i do? The problem i have is that next week our one common friend is leaving forever and wants to see us both before she leaves. She wants to see us together and in a small group of just 4 people. Shall i bother going to this event? Since if i do i will make my close friend feel uncomfortable.

I just do not know what to do!

btw this common friend who's event I am going to attend has not been involved with it. It is just another group of friends.

and how long shall i just not meet her lol?! 1 week?! 2 weeks?! 1 month?!

[Zara]

Ok i don't understand, this is not clear, do you like her or not? if not i don't think you would care you should just tell her what they said isn't true and be friend like before and if you do like her tell her. good luck

[Rojina Aktar]

At some point during that 2 hour hour facebook "conversation" you must have mentioned that you do not hold feelings for her in that way and that it is ALL simply just hearsay ?!

Just tell her straight up (if you havent already attempted to do so!) that you are NOT interested in her in that way, that you are simply a friend and quite frankly would like to remain so, leave it at that and see what happens.



Good luck!