I want her to leave me alone! Please help?

[Deegee]

Well this is an ongoing thing now. In the beginning it was nothing but sex after the break up. It is 7 months now since she broke up with me. She would only come for sex and when i would ask her to give us another chance, she would tell me she would think about it. Now she gets out of her house in the night just to come and nap in my arms for an hour or two and then she goes back home before it is morning so she could get ready and go to school. We don't go to the same school.

Out of nowhere she will text me that she loves me and stuff. About how she misses me, that she wants to be in my arms because she feels safe. But i dont text her first anymore since i dont want to go off as if i am dying for her or trying to be clingy. She has came to my house at night about three times. The last time she came in the night, we cuddled, i woke her up after an hour in her nap. She looked at me and she told me that she loved me and i told her that i loved her too. But then i remained in silence. She asked me what was wrong and i couldn't help it but tear up. I started crying and told her, "i just want you to be mine again. We do all this but we go nowhere." I seriously made a change from how i used to be back then. I don't get mad with her anymore, i listen closely so i can understand her problems. But even then my actions aren't enough. She tells me about the guys that try to get at her and all. But supposedly she will always be mine. Why does she say this if we aren't even officially girlfriend and boyfriend? She is always trying to make sure i am not with anyone else. And every time i upload a photo on instagram that has to do with letting go of feelings, she will text me and ask me if i am going to be like that.

I just don't know anymore. I cry, i changed, but it still isnt enough. What could she want? Is she just playing games? What do i do?

Every time she tells me that she loves me, i ask her how much and she tells me, "enough to get out of my house in the middle of the night just to spend time with you."

[noisyuncle887]

Hah!

[Mircat]

You cry because your gut is telling you this situation is all wrong, going no where, is not beneficial to you in any way, is hurtful to you emotionally, and you are being used. That's why you cry. You know inside all this but because you don't want to believe it you try to over ride that and call it something else.

Bottom line, she uses you emotionally and she says just the right words to keep you quiet and continuing to let her run rough shod over your emotions. You have to cuddle her and listen to her talk about other guys. She gets mad when you try to branch out and away because you won't be there to give her all the attention she demands. She's high maintenance and you're right it's going no where.

You need to cut off contact, not allow her to come over whenever she wants, and let her figure out how to solve her problems in therapy. You need to get out with friends, let them introduce you to some new gals and you need to start having fun again. You changed for nothing, it got you nothing, it changed nothing for the relationship. Yes, she's playing games and she'll say whatever it takes to keep control of you and get you to shut up. But bottom line she goes home and you can't call her your girlfriend so what exactly does all this have to do with fun and romance and how is it beneficial to you?

Block her on social media and do not respond to calls, texts, or e-mails. Have fun again and leave her in the past. Best of luck!

[Joy]

She has serious issues and needs a great deal of attention. You just happen to be someone who she knows is weak and can use until something better comes along.

Hope you wake up and move on.

[scott G]

Listen to Mircat!!

She is using you.

Dump the b*tch and never return her texts or phone calls. Avoid talking to her in person.