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How to know if he is disturbed with my thoughts?
03-24-2014, 10:43 AM
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How to know if he is disturbed with my thoughts?
First of all lemme tell you he's a indian tv actor..i know him since last 5 years and from then i was in search of a way by i can contact him.In 2011,i found his real facebook and twitter account and since then we started talking.my mom n dad are separated from past 6 years n from then i felt like my life ended..there was no way for me to be happy as my family is my life..n since i met him i tried to find happiness in him..i have even told him all my problems when we started talking n he have consoled me many times..i always felt relieved from my pain whenever he said that all will be fine..at first he used to reply even to my silly msgs n later i felt he's avoiding me..i have felt many times before that he's uncomfortable while talking to me..i dun know y but after his last bday he has started behaving odd to me..i also send a letter along with the gifts on his bday last time..i talked to him very openly in that..i was too sincere n faithful while wrote it n also i sed him to dont take me wrong..i have never talked so openly to anyone else..so maybe thats the reason he felt uncomfy!u guys cant even imagine how many times he has consoled me n even when mom n dad's divorse was going on i told him about it n he said me to dont cry n express my offence there..he used to reply /read my msgs in 1-2 weeks days at first..n later it reduced to 2-3 days..later if i msg him at night then i got reply by morning atleast he read it by that time..n in last 1-2 months he reply hardly but read my msg within minutes..can u imagine that..sometimes within seconds even if he's busy with shoots.he has never gave his address to any of his fans.but he gave me..All these were shocking to my friends.he was not like this..he was always nice to me..I dont know dee i just cant forget him coz he was not just a crush or attraction for me..he was the only happiness in my life..he means a lot to me!
And i dont know the reason few days back he blocked me without no reason when I dont even msgd him.I am still confused.Few of my friends told me that he might get disturbed by my thoughts and he cares for me..
Please somebody please help me get out of this mess..I thought many times about what could be the reason but i havent found any..i never let him knw my true feelings for him n i always tried to hide it from him..Guys please tell me what do you think will be the reason..please............... Sad

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03-24-2014, 10:50 AM
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No civilized man ever regrets a pleasure, and no uncivilized man ever knows what a pleasure is.

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03-24-2014, 10:57 AM
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Dear dear. You do not say how old/young you are. Age can be very important in strong feelings. There's a lot going on here. It seems to me that you are a young person relying heavily on a professional older person who is not your relation. You have become strongly attracted to this person and have relied on him more and more, and perhaps, more. I'm supposing he is some number of years your senior. That you sought him out. That, though he has consoled you many, many times, you still have not found a healing for your past sorrows. He has family? He has friends? He has professional associates? He has professional obligations? Maybe he also has some casual or committed family or romantic relationships?
It sounds to me as though you have been consuming a lot of his time and a great deal of his emotional energy. You may be obsessed with him. This is not healthy for you, nor is it healthy for him--no matter the nature of your real world relationship. If he has to earn a living, he may simply need a long breather from the weight of the emotions you have so long been dealing with and never resolved. These, he can not fix for you. You relief is temporary. You, alone, or with a professional councillor, must resolve these issues. A person is a complete entity--not made whole by depending and relying on another. You must find your own stability. If you love him, let him be for a time--maybe as long as several months. Try to find your own strength. Try to find in yourself the strength to help someone else. Put your sad thoughts away. And think of some other thing you CAN do that has a simple solution. Does an older neighbor need help with their shopping, cleaning or cooking? Does a family member need your help? Your heart is as a bird in a cage. Help some one else, and you may find your own wings.
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