Should I bring up the messages I saw on my boyfriends Facebook between him and an ex?

[Justine_420]

I went on my boyfriends Facebook ( I know, not the best decision) and saw a conversation between him and an ex. It wasn't anything flirty, but when I asked about him becoming friends with her on Facebook he didn't mention the messages to me. I wouldn't have cared if he would've just told me. Now I don't know if I should say something or not.

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If there was nothing in the messages then don't think into it, he's not done anything wrong if he's just being friendly with her.

[Leigh]

If they weren't flirty I wouldn't worry about it at all. Congrats on having a good man!

[TeenyMonster]

This is a tough one. You have to first explain how you got into his facebook. The most important thing is is what he'll think of you when you tell him:
1. She is so insecure and turning into a detective...can I trust her anymore
2. You hacked into my facebook.....(BREAKUP)
3. I understand your feelings and I should of told you....I'll stop

Hope it's number 3...and it should be number 3. It doesn't matter how you got onto his facebook....the subject is him talking to the ex. If he doesn't stop or doesn't apologize...that means he doesn't care about your feelings (note: I told my boyfriend that I did not like his "old" (before we met) porn or pictures of women and he threw them away)

Number one thing, he should be telling you everything...especially about an ex. Who stays friends with their ex? Not alot unless each one is clingy.I think what he is doing is disrespectful and not tactful.

[K]

Plenty of people stay friends with their ex, it doesn't mean anything is going on between them. If you saw something you didn't like, that's because you did something you weren't supposed to. If you tell him, he will be upset with you for betraying his trust and you might lose him, so don't say anything and stay off his FB.

[Samantha]

if there was nothing bad, flirty, or anything with a "red-flag" in the message, then don't bother bringing it up unless he does
If you bring it up, he'd think that you're looking through his things, don't trust him, and won't be happy