Men and women, are you happy with how your gender is treated?

[amr]

yup

[Temple]

I don't feel my gender is being treated better or worse than the other.

[Pretty Little Liar]

Yes, in general. Sexist behaviours or actions are not condoned or excused by society at large any more, even if they do still occur in certain circumstances.

Having said that, even if some issues do not affect me directly does not mean they do not exist and that I am not concerned about them.

[scrawnybait799]

No, I am not happy with how males are treated by society.

No, I am not getting things fair and equally on a gender level.

Yes, it does *AFFECT me on a daily basis.

Social/Legal discrimination faced by men (Misandry)
1) Harsher punishments for the same crime.
2) Unfair family courts - not getting custody for the child.
3) Male victims of DV not taken seriously.
4) Male victims of rape not taken seriously.
5) No special laws like VAWA to protect men, even though men are the majority of victims of violent crime.
6) For the same crime, irrespective of the gender of the offender - perpetrator gets more punishment if the victim is female rather than male. This shows the life of men is valued less than women.
7) Men can be conscripted into the army anytime. They cannot even vote without enrolling for the draft.
8) Violence against men by women is socially acceptable, celebrated in the media. Reverse is not true.
9) No/Very few shelters for male victims of DV.
10) No reservations for men in jobs, colleges, etc.. (Affirmative action for women)
11) Men stereotyped by society as being violent, abusers, etc.
12) Young men have to pay higher car/road insurance.
13) Young men in Singapore have to compulsorily serve 2 years in the army on turning 18.
14) Male infant circumcision/genital mutilation is legal and performed widely and even completely socially accepted.
15) Males enrolled in are often given tougher, more dangerous tasks to perform than women in the same post (in a job)
16) Males are expected to carry heavy things for women, give up their seats for women, shovel snow, mow gardens and do any other job involving back-breaking manual labor, that women do not wish to perform.
17) Males are expected to not show emotion and remain stoic, under any circumstance.
18) Males who complain about being objectified are shamed as being “mentally fragile” or their sexuality is questioned.
19) In the army, or any other position men have to meet much higher physical standards than women (disproportionately higher number of push ups, pull ups, etc..)
20) Many countries do not even recognize female on male rape. It can maximally only amount to “sexual assault”
21) Male children are often given harsher punishments by teachers for the same level of mischief as girls.
22) Men are expected to ask women out, pay for dates, decide on the venue – basically it’s the man’s job to impress the woman, and not vice versa.
23) Men have no reproductive choices. The only choice men have is to use a condom (which can fail upto 3-5% of the times) or not have intercourse. Whereas women in addition to a host of contraceptives, also have the choice of abortion.
24) Men’s lives are given less value in any situation. In any emergency, always women are rescued first.
25) When a man slaps a woman, he is an abuser and a monster, When a woman slaps a man, “he must have done something to annoy her”
26) Victim blaming is acceptable ONLY when men are the victims and women the perpetrator.
27) When a man breaks up with a woman, he is called a “jerk”. When a woman dumps a man, “he must have failed her somehow”
28) Males do not have the privilege of showing affection to each other in public, people start questioning their sexuality. This doesn’t apply to women.
29) Women have the choice of being a stay at home mum or going out to work. Men dont have that choice - that HAVE to be the provider!!

[Grace Under Fire]

Yes and no. Things certainly are better for women overall than they were 40 years ago. I feel confident that my basic human rights are protected, that I'm valued as much as the male counterparts in my life.

That said, I do think the pendulum has swung a bit too far. I'm not a believer in "making up" for losses of generations past. I want relative equality, not preferential treatment. And so when I see women being advantaged for their gender alone, then it saddens me. That means we still aren't equal.

[Ya Coffee]

No - I'm always dismayed when people demean women just because they are women. I have a high status job and good people around me so I'm usually given respect (except in Gender Studies) but I see women around me - family - friends and acquaintances getting grief constantly only because they are women - of course I have received this treatment in the past too but honestly I think this is unacceptable in the 21st century.

[melissa]

I don't think either gender is being unfairly treated but as I can only answer for females I will just say: no.

It used to be women complaining about men and now it's men complaining about women. Why won't people realise that they're lucky to even be able to live the life the have? There are far worse off people in the world who are starving and abused. Let's worry more about them.

[Tadpole]

No, I'm not happy with the way my gender is treated. I'm a woman and I personally feel that we get too much special treatment. Often people will say "Of course you disapprove of gender inequality until you directly benefit from it", but in my case I don't think that's true.

Mostly this seems to apply in the legal system, especially where cases of violence or murder are involved. I feel like women who abuse men are too often assumed to be justified ("He must've done something to offend her/You go, girl!") and get no punishment from the legal system as opposed to men, even when men are defending themselves against the woman's attacks.

I also feel that when women are put on trial for murder of their husband the jury too readily believes whatever sob story, real or fabricated, the woman delivers as to abuse or cheating or probable cause and takes an unfair amount of sympathy on them. I'm not saying that mitigating factors should be ignored in these cases, I'm just saying that men who have the same kind of abuse to report should receive the same consideration.

[Happyarm573]

hell no,men are being discriminated against in courts and other places

[Neo]

I'm not happy with the way men are being treated as second class citizens under Obamacare. There is considerable emphasis on women's health issues giving them "free" benefits while the men will be charged exorbitantly high fees to pay for the women. I plan to vote for those who want to repeal it and am contemplating writing to my elected representatives about it