i need help with my marriage and husband!!!!!!!!!!?

[Wine]

I have seen a video and a couple of shots in which my husband was on a diner date with some blonde friend of his
and strangely he wasn't even sitting on his seat,the girl was sitting in front of his seat instead he was standing behind her,kissing her head,wrapping his arms around her chest,stomach and neck and both were laughing and joking.and looked so happy and it was obvious that they must have had sex that night as well.

Best friends with ex girlfriend but suddenly he publicly thrashed her for how many men he knows she slept with,whom she is sleeping with while he is talking and that shes are a **** indirectly and during that he mentioned me what he put me through during the overdose incident, in laws crying when they hear that

I cannot understand why he got a tattoo of my name when the same year he cheated,posing with three skimpy dressed blondes and later one of them was sitting on his lap,while he was partially unclothed,showing his wedding ring to the camera.THIS HAPPENED AFTER MARRIAGE.


But my husband has painted such a good picture of himself,that he changed and is such a family man that nobody really believes that he can cheat on me now.except a few people.
writing time needed to be with family,going on a family vacation,watching TV with me,writing happy birthday to me on twitter when we wee together the whole day,and other things about me and daughter on twitter) kisses me in the crowds after hes done performing

he wrote happy birthday to me on twitter as just the day before your my birthday while he was talking on twitter,he didn't mention that its my birthday tomorrow..just told that we are going for our family vacation.and why will a husband wish his wife happy birthday on twitter when hes going on a vacation with her and kid that day and is with her the whole day???
is this just another stunt for proving what a family man,good hubby he is.i dont think anybody who really loves their spouse, writes their spouse happy birthday on twitter when they are at home with them!

he wanted a child as quickly as possible before he got married.and had already thought of baby names including selecting

[son110]

WHY CANT YOU HAVE ANOTHER BABY?

WHY?

YOU DONT WANT TO?

[relievedplot474]

I am sorry to hear what u’ve gone through. May God be with u. Please be strong. Two things u can do. ONE, be a True Leader and lead him. TWO, u need to get the best counselor, the one who understands the whole concept of True Love, fully. For example, someone with a faith background, like a priest, who understands a divine concept like True Love, because True Love was created by a Divine person: God. Many counselors cannot help, because they just want your money, because they themselves do not understand the concept of True Love the fullest, a perfect concept that covers all aspects of life, all the ultimate concepts:"How to be Romantic, True Happiness, True Marriage, True Relationship, True Parenting, True Friendship, True Purpose of Life, True Leadership, True Faith in God, Kingdom of Heaven”.

Now, your side. Ask him this:"Do u want our relationship to lose passion every day when we grow apart day by day, when we separate someday, or u want to make it to be the most passionate, the most beautiful, the world has ever seen?". If the latter, then he has to try his best, as a partner: to become a more mature, unselfish person.

Your problem is a universal problem: your husband now practices Self-Love. Below are the characteristics of a True Leader/ True Lover. By design, by creation, by True Love concept, God puts that responsibility to men, but if he cannot be one, take that role. From your leadership in loving, he will be compelled to love you back: he would live for you too. Change the pronoun He to She. That's why people made movies called:"When a Man Truly Loves a Woman". No u are making your own movie:"When A Woman Truly Loves a Man". Try to be a True Leader by example, and by doing so, he will be compelled to follow your steps, like Evelyn Ryan, in the movie "Prizewinner of Defiance Ohio, where in time, u will be blessed like the way she was, by God. Pray to God. God to church. Ask God for strength, direction, wisdom, and inspirations.

Also, all those things, the tattoo, the twitter, birthday cards, doesn't mean anything (that doesn't mean that he really loved you), especially if you know that he has betrayed/ cheated you (he has slept with another woman). Below are the characteristics of a man who truly loves a woman (he practices True Love fully).

HE:
• should try to understand your problems, moods, hang-ups, the most, believes u the most
• is the one whom u share the same sense of True Accomplishment/ Happiness/ Pride/ Purpose:”Look, we raised our children well. Now, they are useful to this world”.
• is a True Leader in loving u (he is willing to give 3 loves to u, even though he gets only 1 love back from u; he works harder to love more, he is more mature, more unselfish, more compassionate, wiser than u are; he makes u reach your orgasm first, many times, before he reaches his first)
• never stops impressing/ respecting u, in the way he dresses, he looks, he smells.
• thinks about how to make your marriage/ relationship more beautiful every day. More growth: thinking about your growth and your mate’s growth plus the growth of your son makes u grow and learn more and faster. Your problems are his. Your faculties are more used than if u are only thinking of your own growth (Self-Love)
• is the most supportive and encouraging of your potential, goals, and aspirations. He is all for u, never fails u, never lets u down, and will be standing by u always.
• makes u strong, stable, committed through hard times, changes, challenges
• inspires u in your work, thoughts, mind, imagination, creativity. Higher productivity. Your creative pores are the most opened. U reach your highest senses. Your focus is like a laser light. Your imagination is the greatest.
• is the one with whom u can share the good & bad, the hopes & dreams, the amusing & serious times, the knowledge & experiences, someone whom u are the most comfortable with
• is the one whose bond with u grows the strongest, whom u are the most connected with, who is your greatest friend and greatest lover
• sees u the most in terms of your capabilities, talents, energies
• excites u the most: he is the most excited in planning things together, of doing things together with you. He has the motivation/ excitement to grow and to learn something new, together. U look forward to going to work in the morning and going home at the end of the day.
• completes u the most of needs and desires, cares for u the most
• is compassionate: your feelings are his. He tries his best to feel problems, troubles, moods, needs, desires, grief from the opposite gender’s point of view, understanding them as if his own, while serving those necessities of others above his own. In time, he can sense something wrong without being told, he can see with your eyes, hear with your ears, feel with your heart.

God bless you and all your family.