I think my fiance' is hiding something from me again...trust issues?

[SeXySoApYbUbBlEs]

Last year, my fiance had a non-sexual affair with a woman and lied about it. Ever since then I have dealt with trust issues and I don't think he's done a good job gaining back my trust. Keep in mind he is a new professional athlete.

He is protective of his phone now. Security code that I don't know, and his phone is always in his hand. He does a lot of business on his phone, so I can understand that. I don't know if I'm over reacting.

He recently got a twitter page, after we both agreed we wouldn't be doing social networking anymore, but he claims its for business and to "market himself." I saw some suspicious post to a woman claiming he wanted her to follow him so he can "ask her a question in her inbox." I asked him about it, and the post was deleted and replaced with his teammate wants to get to know her and he wanted to give her his number so they can converse. The profile was later blocked to the public. I thought he wanted to use it to "market" himself, but he claims he doesn't want the media to be in his personal business. I thought his twitter account was business, he should have personal things on there anyways.

I recently found out I was pregnant for him, and that makes the situation even more complicated. He has a pageant that he is supposed to judge soon, and that makes me uncomfortable. If he hadn't had the past history of cheating, I wouldnt be so nervous.

What should I do? How should I bring up these issues to him? What is reasonable for me to expect of him in order to gain back my trust?

[tagboy]

Guess who are the biggest cheaters, besides Congressmen and Senators. professional athletes, even the all American boy (Tiger) couldn't keep it zipped.

[tagboy]

You should have left him when he cheated.

I'd either demand that he attend counseling with me, or I'd leave, baby and all.

[john]

How can a guy have non-sexual affair?
What does it mean, what do they do?
Is this really cheating?

[nellieh]

You don't 'think' he's cheating on you, you KNOW he's cheating on you. Why are you playing with this idiot?
Leave him. Now. If you are pregnant (too bad really), demand child support and get a lot of it, but don't tie yourself to this man. He's NO GOOD. Even if half of what he says is true, he's unkind, untrustworthy, and it all makes you uncomfortable. (as it should )
Ahtletes are known to be cheaters because they think they're God's Gift. He's not. He can Market himself all he wants- you aren't buying him.
Put him On Sale Cheap. Walk away.

[Christiana]

http://youtu.be/nRg-STydm4o dedicate this song to him and replace the phrase ''my girl'' with ''my boy'' .he is a pure cheater

[victorioushealth306]

Well, since he is your fiance' and not merely someone youre dating, this all needs to be out in the open and discussed.
This isnt the way to begin a marriage, with all these doubts.

Pro athletes or anyone who showcases themselves, continually have women throwing themselves at them. Ive read a number of bios of famous rock stars and all of them involve women( Im talking beautiful model types) coming right over, even when the wife is sitting right there, and making moves on their husbands.
Ive seen this this even with friends, on a local level, who played in a band and such. They want to" hitch their wagon to a star"> $$

You need a strong level of trust going into this, if you do marry him.
He needs to be more into you than vice versa.
If youre getting worried about him judging a pageant, there are rules about contestant and judges.

Sometimes, we find people in life that we love with all of our heart but our lifestyles are not meant for a life together. Neither of you might be in the wrong here. It could just be that your personal idea of a relationship, isnt what he's going to deliver. Ive had those too, and had to bow out, quite sadly.
I cant live that way, wondering who that email is from, and why he sees nothing wrong with having lots of casual female friends. I wasnt raised like that. My dad never did that.

When you marry, that person is your very best friend. Two become one. You cant have your other half off being secretive. The unit doesnt work then. Trust is everything.
Talk to him, and tell him you dont know how to get your level of trust restored. Its something WE both need to work on.