Is my boyfriend passive aggressive?

[A]

We tease each other a lot to make each other laugh but sometimes I think he goes a step too far...

Several times he's made comments that have made me feel belitted and insecure, whether it be about something i've worn or if I'm not looking particularly good one day.

Don't get me wrong, he compliments me and tells me I look nice a lot.But recently for example, I changed my profile picture on facebook to a photo of me on holiday with the sea behind me, and he asked me to show him. He asked how many people liked it and I said 6, and he said 6 people liked that? It's rubbish!

I'm not the kind of girl who wears extensions and cakes herself in make up, I'm not bad looking but I don't go for the "wannabe glamourous" kinda look.... I don't take photos of my looking like a wh*re on facebook for lads' attention. And I know he finds girls like this attractive... So comments like this make me feel insecure.

It's really starting to bother me because as much as I love him, comments like this and the fact that he finds girls like this attractive (and cant seem to hide it is starting to get the better of me).

Any opinions please???

[Helen]

Oh please just break up with him. Who cares if he is or isn't passive aggressive, a boyfriend is supposed to lift you up not break you down. You don't need that in your life.

[Mixology]

His comment wasn't passive aggressive. He told you what he felt upfront. If you don't like what he does break up with him. You two aren't married or in a committed relationship.

[Annabella]

I don't think you understand the meaning of passive aggressive. He was blatantly rude, disrespectful & condescending towards you.

[Towanda]

Passive aggressive men...and I dated one for years...build you up emotionally and then do things to knock you down and hurt you. It is a nasty game they play and they could care less. They will isolate you from your friends and family if they can so that you are at their mercy. What your bf said is typical. They work at making you feel insecure...that makes you more vulnerable. I wondered what made my ex's exwife leave her kids and move way out of state when I got into the relationship. I found out the hard way myself. Life was hell with him and it was a constant struggle. One day...five years later... I just said the hell with it and started dating some other men and I felt like the weight of the world was off my back. What a user he was and he really damaged my self confidence..I look back and wonder why did I let him do that to me...I'm a strong person but what a mess. Your friend talks about other girls to lower your self confidence. Yup, he sounds passive aggressive to me. Just remember the next time when he says something that hurts...look him in the eyes and know that he meant to hurt you and could care less. It will become very simple to leave him. I wasted a lot of time on someone that didn't deserve me.

[HooBoo]

He would appear to be anything but passive aggressive in the example you've given. Passive aggression is insidious, soul destroying behaviour that it is almost impossible to pinpoint. Your boyfriend simply told you he didn't like your photo.

If what he says or the way he behaved is hurting you then you need to be a bit more assertive yourself and just tell him. He then has two choices: stop and apologise or lose you.