My husband gushes over his sister-in-law. Could he have a crush?

[SuperDooperSuprize]

I know people, even married people have harmless crushes. I get that. But all of my husbands gushing about his sister-in-law is getting kind of old. I know nothing would ever happen because he loves me and I trust him. Plus she lives in Arizona anyway.

He just lights up when he talks about her. I can understand why. She is very intelligent, accomplished, and beautiful (naturally beautiful to boot). He manages to remember her birthday and follows her on social media. She recently posted a new picture for her company website and he comments about how beautiful and gorgeous she looks.

I will be honest. I am jealous for sure. He never tells me that I'm beautiful unless I remind he that he has never told me so. Then he will say that I look nice or that I'm not a bad looking woman! Really? Not a bad looking woman?

I'm sure I've answered my own question, but I would like some feedback. Thank you.
Thank you for the responses so far. I make sure to never compare him to other men. He is a very sensitive soul and I tell him all the time how handsome he is even though he doesn't believe it. He works very hard for our family and I make sure he knows that I know it.

[Jay]

You have reason to be upset. Clearly your husband is capable of verbally affirming (since he does it all the time towards this other woman), but he's not directing it at you. He needs to remember that he's chosen you. You are his wife and you are the one who he should be directing his attraction towards. It's normal for any person to notice another attractive person, but he's taking this too far and is pushing a lot of boundaries. I think you need to be honest with your husband about how this is making you feel and that you're not comfortable with this. Maybe he needs to be reminded about how HE might feel if you went on and on about how hot and sexy some other guy was (particularly if he was better in ways that your husband was lacking such as a better physique or more hair on his head, etc.). Sometimes when the shoe is on the other foot it gives people perspective.

[rum pyrat]

You seem like a very smart woman yerself. You say nothing about comparing hubby to other men, which isn't going to accomplish anything.

Ask him if this sister-in-law crush is going to keep him warm at night.

[david b]

Maybe you could have a discussion about it the next time he does this. Tel him that it hurts your feelings when he seems more impressed with her than he is with his own wife. I think you should point out to him that people that love someone don't do things that hurt that person and that this hurts you. Don't tell him to stop doing it, but make sure that he understands how you feel every time he does. Hopefully he'll be smart enough to recognize that he needs to stop. And yes, he needs to stop!

[PK]

I'm a female and I gush about my brother in law.

I absolutely adore the man.

But not in that way... he's just been the bomb for my sister and made her so happy and complete in so many ways that on top of loving him as an individual, I love him even more for his relationship with my sister.

To someone who doesn't understand, it might be odd and they might think I had a crush on him. And I DO!

LoL. But not for myself. For my sister.